so yesterday i was so angry at my brother i gt a kitching knife and ran after him and he ran in his room shut the door, so i took it out on his door by stabbing 26 holes in it. i shouted/sowre at my dad becuase he call me a facist pig. that was uneeded. so what do you guys think of the situation or do you have any ideas on how i can calm my self down with-out having a fag or having a pint or talking to someone?...
i fogot to add that i called my teacher a son-of-a-bitch for sending me to behavour team for saying somethings to a annoying little f*** and got 2hours detention
Suggestions? Well - it appears that you've developed some pretty nasty habits. Not sure why. Perhaps you've learned through example. Perhaps you've developed it as a means to get attention that you otherwise wouldn't get. Whatever the reason, it's now starting to backfire on you. This isn't a healthy or productive way to react to people or situations. Chasing someone with a knife is dangerous and could land you ultimately in jail. It's best to stop - so I'm glad you're looking to do that. YOU are responsible for your reaction to things. Your natural reaction isn't appropriate, so you need to train yourself to react in a more positive or constructive way. I'm not sure how to do that other than through practice and reflection. Start keeping a journal. When someone does something to upset you, write about it rather than reacting to it physically. If you forget, and you react physically, write about it afterwards - about what upset you, what you did, and what you could have done differently. I'd also recommend talking to someone about this. Perhaps the teacher that gave you detention. Tell them that you really are interested in making a change, but that you'd like some help or encouragement to do it. Or talk to your parents, or a counsellor at school, or your doctor. Perhaps someone could refer you to a therapist who could also help. I'm glad you're trying to make a change, because you'll go nowhere fast if you keep that up. Good luck.
now i know im not doing this just for attenution becuae if i was i would have killed someone. i just have a urge to pick up my lighter or knife and play with them...and well if someone pisses me off i swear at them not for attention more to say you started it now f*** off and go home.
The first issue is your anger. It would do a world of good for you to go see a specialist to help you. A trip to your GP would result in referrals to the right places and you'll feel a whole lot better when you get the help you need. The second issue is the way you're dealing with these issues. It really isn't healthy to smoke or drink to solve anger, nor is it healthy for anyone of your age to do so (or anyone of any age, but particularly in someone who is is still developing). If you smoke and drink now it would probably be best to try and quit and find alternative methods of feeling better. It could lead to long term problems like addiction and that's not something that you want. That is for your well-being as well as those around you. It's possible that your drinking and smoking leads to angry episodes, or vice versa. Or perhaps it's a spiral that you need to get out of. Either way, I think it would be really good if you could go see a doctor about these issues so that you can sort them out before you might hurt someone.
I know you didn't wanna hear talk to someone but I think that's the best option to get some professional help
If you just wanted attention you would have killed someone? don't buy it. You DO like attention either good or bad.
If you just wanted attention you would have killed someone? don't buy it. You DO like attention either good or bad.[/quote] i really am not an attention seeker not to be rude but you dont know me my mum only knows half of me i stay in the shadows at partys and school.i hate attention
Thats what one of my brothers did when he was younger he got a cleaver and chopped the sofa but only made a small cut. I admit he has a problem, wierd bad problem. Yeah I think you need to see a Doc.
And if you still want to be close to your brother you shouldn't do that to him, its going to scare and scar him. Even if your younger than him.
I agree with previous posters when they say you could benefit from talking to someone. Doing so you can get closer to the root of the anger, and why youre filled with such rage. As for me, I have had anger issues. And something that really helps me is just being aware of when I get angry. Anger grows and grows till we burst. So acknowledging when you are getting angry helps slow it down and gives you an opportunity intervene. But getting to the root of the anger helps too. Talking to someone doesn't make you any less of a person. It actually is great.
That sort of anger doesn't come out of nowhere. There's something going on for you, most likely issues in the way your family functions, events or experiences you've observed or had in the past, or something else that has basically pent up a whole lot of anger and frustration that you will need to work through with a therapist. The other issue that I would want to look at with a therapist is impulse control; this is what, in someone that's emotionally healthy, helps them to avoid going from *thinking* of grabbing a knife and attacking someone (which many have done at one time or another) to actually grabbing the knife and punching holes in the door. Something is very wrong if you don't have adequate impulse control to prevent yourself from doing that, as well as responding the way you do to your teachers. These should all be solveable problems, and the fact that you are asking for help and realizing there's an issue is a large part of the battle. I would ask your mom to support you in seeking help for this as soon as you can; if one day you do lose control further and do end up harming someone, then you will lose most of your options to help yourself and end up in jail. It takes a lot of guts to come forward and talk about the situation. The next step is to take action. If you need help with referrals, please let me know
