So, the only person left on my list of coming out to people is my best friend. We’ve been buds for eight years now. I’m pretty sure he’ll take it alright, but I’m just nervous things will get weird, not in a sexual way. I’ve run through all the usual crap in my mind. 1. I’m still the guy who helped you out when you mouthed off in that bar. :tantrum: 2. I’m still the guy who held your hand, when you were freaking out on your wedding day. :eusa_clap 3. I’m still the guy who you go to comic shop with every week, yeah I’m a nerd. :starwars: But, I’m still freaking out here. Someone just tell me to stop being a pansy and man up. :bang: He has said before that gay people make him uncomfortable, but since then he has had more exposure to them. His boss at his job is gay and he always speaks highly of him.
There's nothing wrong with being nervous about telling him, as long as you do it. But on the third point, wouldn't he already know you're a nerd? It may take some getting used to, but if you've been friends for eight years already, I doubt it will make much of a difference that he learns that you're gay.
coool do it. im sure that hell take it ok seeing as hes your best friend. and since he is, do u think their mayb a chance he may already know? not saying your obvious, but do u ever make comments about 'hot girls' or anything like that?
Actually no I don't think there is a chance in hell he knows. He isn't very...observant. And yes, he usually ask what I think about a girl. I'll be honest is she si hot or not, but I never thrust my groin and say, "yeah I bag that bitch" or anything like that.
you can do it he is your friend and he will accept you and be the same friend he always has been just like you will be once you tell him good luck and i know you can do it
the thing is because he is been your best friend for 8 years you dont want anything that could possibly change your realtionship with him. its probably eaier coming out to new friends then old ones
you should tell him. My best friend for 4 years was offended when he found out ( I didn't tell him) He was practically crying over the phone because he wanted to come out too. It's easier for you to tell him than for him to come up to you and ask why you haven't told him.
Thanks for the support all, I haven't seen him for a few weeks (work and what not). But, I'm working my way up to it.
You're nervous, and that's good, up to a certain point, keeps you sane (unlike me ROFLCAT) but yeah, you're gonna be fine. He'll take it fine and after that, it will only be awkward if you let it. So basically, keep it real, tell jokes, don't try to change anything in your relationship and if you've been friends for 8 years, well try and make it stay that way; GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
Best thing for me was making a promise to myself. Next time I see this person. And then, above all, don't back out. You can do it!
