So I leave my hometown and move to Brisbane next week!

Wahoooo! This is awesome. Good luck for the move!

 

Ah it all sounds so perfect and wonderful for you :eusa_clap! I also had high hopes of doing the things you wanna do before I moved to Sydney: join a club, meet lots of gay people, find an Aussie boyfriend, etc.. But then I realised I'm not even Aussie, which made things so much harder for me. This is the first time I've been in a place where LGBT people can live their free lives, and yet I'm still stuck in my closet just because I'm Asian. How sad.

Well, I HOPE YOU ENJOY YOUR NEW LIFE DOWN THERE! I'M SURE YOU WILL LIVE A FREE AND WILD LIFE!(!)(!)(!)

 

I know !! I was the worst arachnophobe when I first arrived in Australia and became super OTT about checking stuffs etc... with time though it awkwardly vanished and I am now the official exterminator of my house back home (mind you the spiders we have in France/Europe are smaller than a coin :lol: )

BUT you do NOT need to be Aussie to do all of those things, you need to be confident. Confident in who you are and what you have to offer to other people (personality-wise etc...). It's important, if you always undermine yourself by comparing yourself to others you really won't go far. Sydney is an amazing city who happen to be very gay-friendly which is an amazing opportunity for you. Nothing is preventing you from joining clubs, meeting gay people (Oxford street is the Mecca for gay guys in Sydney) and even finding yourself a boyfriend but yourself. Don't let your background or the fact that you aren't a local hold you back and have fun.

I am French and can't picture myself with a Frenchie at all, I much prefer foreigners as I absolutely love their accent, the different perspective on life they provide and so many little bonuses they can bring to a friendship/relationship thanks to their cultural background. You really have to embrace the fact that you aren't a local because if you were you wouldn't find Australia that exciting nor Aussies that exotic, they would just be your everyday life and let me tell you, that is boring.
Get out of your shell and enjoy the opportunity that has been given to you. As I said you are the only one preventing yourself from doing all the things you really want to do which is shame. Sydney is pretty amazing when it comes to the LGBT, I have never felt so free to hold hands with another girl and kiss one than in Sydney and I would feel pretty sad if you didn't get to experience that with another guy due to your own anxieties.:icon_sad: (*hug*)

 

Haha you'd have to leave the sunshine state for that maybe.
Aussies like to scare people off though when they go abroad by telling foreigners about all their creepy crawlies when in reality, it isn't that bad.

 

Probably I have a fear of rejection and not fitting in.... :lol:

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oh my god is this true?? I have a phobia for spiders too! I have heard some nasty ass shit regarding the "spider crawling into your homes" thing. Its still winter-spring so nothing's out yet. I'm really afraid of summer now and all the things that kill you haha.

 

Hahaha hunstman were my worst ennemies, so freaking scary, thank god I saw probably one in my house in Sydney and the rest were big spiders like hand-size ones but they weren't hairy and were on islands so it was to be expected. Hairy spiders are what creeps me out as well as massive ones obviously but yep, I feel you for living in the bush !

 

I've never seen a spider bigger than my thumb.... So this will freak me out and I'll scream like a little girl! I thought Sydney's gonna be better because its a big city and spiders can't find anything to eat, isn't it?

 

That's so awesome. Hope it's all you hope for

 

I did notice 2 types of accent though. One is much more Americanized, and the other is, dare I say, more "Australian", therefore less understandable for me. And the ones that sound more Australian come from smaller cities/ towns. Otherwise, I couldn't tell the difference at all.

 

Yes, I totally did, the few Aussies I met in Sydney had a pretty straight forward accent, rather smooth and easy to understand (maybe because I was used to it but I believe more because they were used to foreigners and having to communicate with them.)

People from the bush or smaller cities/town who don't necessarily see anyone but Aussies tend to have a much broader accent, which tend to be harder to understand and they also tend to use much more slang making it even more difficult for a foreigner to understand. I absolutely loved the Aussie accent though , mind you I love most accent, but the Aussie one was gold ! :icon_redf


A funny thing is that my best friend is Aussie , when we first met (we met abroad) we said something to each other and just stood there staring at each other, like WTF ? I could understand English but for some odd reason Australian english seemed to be a completely foreign language that I could not seem to decipher, so I stood there wondering what the heck she had just said while she did the same, unable to tell what the heck I had just asked her with my thick French accent, that was absolutely awkward and we parted ways thinking that we would never be friends. Obviously we totally became the best of friends and now are just used to each others accents and ways of chatting.
I recently met her parents while I was in Oz though, and heck I could not understand a word of what her father told me, so I resumed to guessing and nodding my head 'yes' as much as I could hoping it would fit whatever question he was asking me. :lol:
Needless to say there is still a few Aussies I cannot understand but hey, I put on my best French accent tell them I don't speak English and most of the time, it does the job.

 

No worries, Irish are pretty hard to understand yeah so I feel you.

It was nice talking to an Aussie again, enjoy your move to Brisbane, I am sure it will be fantastic, Good luck ! (!)