Situations Where it's difficult to be gay.

Wolfer · Apr 20, 2007

I'm a sound technician at a full-gospel church in Texas.
. . . what fun.

LowestVocal017 · Apr 20, 2007

kenko said:

Have you ever had any situations in particular where you found it difficult to be gay?

One was at my old part time job. I was a carry out guy at a grocery store. The managers, etc. liked me because I was one of a few employees that showed up on time, actually worked hard, etc.

Anywho, it seemed that most of my fellow carry out co-workers spent all their time eyeing the customers. So they would make comments like "Oh did you see the hot blonde that went by?" I must say my straight-dar is completely non-existent. Once I could figure out who they were talking about, I would find that the woman wasn't really that much better than average looking, or just dressed whorish. I would attempt a quick follow up remark, eg "Oh yeah, look at the size of her chest" but I was really bad at it, and I would quickly try to change the topic.

I never attempted to pick anyone out myself. But it seemed this is what most of my co-workers did all the time.

Eventually my co-workers started getting suspicious and a couple asked if I was gay. Yeah, that's real great. I really just wanted to work my crappy job without sexuality coming into it. One of the people that asked was a co-worker that I (and I know several others) thought was gay. I never asked him if he was, but "acted straight", eg: "Check out the brunette that...". I don't know if it was just a charade like mine. I know if they made comments to others about his sexuality, there were probably making comments to others about mine.

I tried to convince them that I was straight, because really I didn't want any hassle, but I don't know if I convinced them.

I know I shouldn't really care about what they thought, but when you have to deal with these people every day, it helps to have a good working relationship with them. I guess that's why I liked the early morning shift, where I was the only one working for half of it, then when there was two or more of us, it was really busy and the managers were around, so chatter was kept to a minimum.

Though a funny story, one of the cashiers was a lesbian. I never would have known, but once she came over to me (it was a slow night) and said "Look at the ring I got for my girlfriend!" Oh if only I could be that open.

Any others with similar stories?
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Kenko, the sad truth for me in this situation is that I'm GN. At the same time, I don't really want to have my sexuality be known. Yet, it's extremely easy for people to figure me out because of my natural display of mannerism. Being GN and desiring the closet...Not a very good combination, if you know what I mean.

In this case, every second for me is difficult when it comes to being gay. People figure me out left and right. How do you like to live like that emotionally? :frown:

Miaplacidus · Apr 20, 2007

At home. My father would kick me out if he knew. Thank God (it's just an expression, I don't believe in God) I'll probably move to the States next year, if the US government doesn't kick me out for being from down here, and that will be all gone.

RH5893 · Apr 20, 2007

i have had my fair share of these moments myself but the worst one to me was a few days ago when i went to my friends house and he was making out with his gf just to show off (i almost threw up) anyway when he came up for air he asked me if i have ever done that with a girl of coarse i have done this but not with a girl so i just left without answering smooth huh?:dry:

LowestVocal017 · Apr 23, 2007

miaplacidus said: ↑

At home. My father would kick me out if he knew. Thank God (it's just an expression, I don't believe in God) I'll probably move to the States next year, if the US government doesn't kick me out for being from down here, and that will be all gone.
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Oh, my dear, good luck with the U.S.A., the so-called "free" country!! :dry: I'm sorry to hear that someone as nasty as kicking a gay son out has to be your father, but I'm sure whatever country you're from, it's better than HERE (the U.S.). If anything, you'd probably find more acceptance back in your home country than in the U.S, and I mean that litterally!

Sorry about the ranting. Let's talk about your dad (if you don't mind it). Is he religious, or does he simply have a learned false image of gay people? If he suspects you and you begin to worry about it, do you have someone you can turn to talk about it?

blake21 · Apr 23, 2007

try growing up in a military family and living on base the military is not gay friendly

Jim1454 · Apr 23, 2007

Hmmmm - I don't think I've been in any particularly bad situations being gay. However, I find myself 36 years old, separated and with two children, and now coming to the realization. I've lived my whole life - personal, family and work - as a straight male, so I just find my whole situation to be difficult...

Kimi · Apr 25, 2007

At church.
I was volunteering as a baby-sitter on Sunday...
I believe it's gonna be quite big problem if any of other baby-sitters found out that I'm into men:eek:
Though I already stopped doing it...Because I kinda felt guilty that I was in the church and baby-sitting for non gay believer's kids:dry:

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