Should I date a gay slut?

Well, I'm what you would call promiscuous (used to be, I'm happily partnered now).

For me, it became a game of how much guys I could get, even going as far as sleeping with friends. But I would keep it on a friendly level until you know for sure he wants to pursue something more than sex with you.

 

Personally i wouldn't but then again i don't find the slutty lifestyle attractive. If you feel that he genuinely wants to pursue it, go ahead, take a little dip in the waters, try it.

 

I'd agree with the user above me, can't ever find that attractive, and there were days I regret now that I've had some common sense. If you are contemplating an open relationship, then it might be better? But otherwise, I can just see so many ways this might not work out as you see fit.

Ultimately, what we say will have little effect on the path you take, but rest assured that the majority will support your decision regardless

 

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If you are wise, you will listen to me

Oompa Loompa doompety doo

I wouldn't hit that, and neither should you

What do you get when you get with a tart?

A rash on your junk and a tear in your heart

Oompa Loompa doompety di

If you are patient, you'll find a great guy

You will live in happiness too

Like the Oompa Loompa doompety do!

 

To the OP: it's your life, do whatever you want - but remember that people are more than capable of changing. This person might be content with sleeping around now, but you might be the person who they become monogamous for. If you make this person feel better or more valued as a person than some random fuck, then that's a good thing. At the end of the day, it's your call.

 

It seems he just wants you on a emotional level but not sexually..

Are you ok with that?

 

Anyway as to the OP--my concern would not be so much that you shouldn't date someone with that kind of history. That's an individual thing--some will, some won't. What's pretty clear is that you shouldn't date someone you have that kind of scorn for.

 

If you are not comfortable about it then I suggest you not to pursue it at all but maybe try getting to know the guy first? I don't think there's any harm at all since you guys aren't in a relationship. Give this guy a chance on one date and see how it will turn out.

 

Well, if he can supposedly get "many" guys, and says you don't put out in bed, there's no worrying what will happen if you leave him, is there? It almost sounds like he wants to add another notch on his belt, but if you're looking for something more, and your gut is telling you to look elsewhere, I'd listen.

Don't try to change him, because it seems he's pretty set in his ways. If you decide to pursue a sex-only arrangement without becoming attached down the road, he might be better fit for that position.

Like someone else said, if you're interested, test the waters first. Just try not to add too many expectations; see where it goes.

 

To the OP, well I don’t think you should get into a relationship with this guy if you have that kind of doubts in the back of your head. It is just going to bring loads of stress to your life and you surely can find someone more suitable for you. But if you are really into the guy, just be sincere about your concerns. You don’t like that aspect of his life... that is fine just make clear that those are your concerns and that you would need him to change, things cannot go wrong if you are sincere. (I am not making any judgment here).

But I also think you should never use the word slut, it is too charged of negative connotations and too judgmental.

Oh, wow! So what is exactly the grown up thing to do: Insulting people? Believing your opinion is absolute truth and not accepting any other point of view? Using stereotypes to judge people you don’t know?

Don’t do whatever you don’t feel comfortable with; refuse dating people who view sex differently as you do. But don’t go around judging people using your moral standards as universal truth because they are not.

Slut is an insult, I would never use that word to describe anyone if I do not intend insulting that person. And you are even calling names other members of the forum... in my book that is an irrational and childish behavior that does nothing to support your point.
In fact I agree with Iamnotreallysure’s point of view so less judgment would be appreciated.

I do enjoy sex and don’t need to wait for the love of my life to actually enjoy it. My standards are perfectly in place thanks!

 

I think this is about the best summary we'll get for the OP.

Also strongly agree with Chip's post: You already -named- the person you are curious about a slut, hence, you already have strong discontent. That's not a good base for anything, for both of you.

 

Well I mean if you really feel that way about him then he's obviously not the one for you idk how he feels about you tbh so maybe he has genuine feelings...but if he's known to cheat then that's a different story......

 

God Martin you managed to choose such a badass character for a sig.

 

To the OP, no you shouldn't date him. You obviously have very different views on sex, and you seem to take a very negative view on being promiscuous.

I am perfectly fine with people not wanting to be promiscuous or even finding it morally wrong in their eyes, but what you are doing is in very poor taste. You are implying that promiscuous men are diseased heartbreakers that are incapable of any emotion. I know many promiscuous men that are great people. The fact that they enjoy sex doesn't define them as a person. Your post is incredibly condescending and does not belong in a support forum such as this.

 

If i were you I would make him work for it and not go to him so easily .

 

I agree with stocking, if if he doesnt try then he doesnt want it, so let him try for the relationship.