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Should I Come Out?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by BiBoyToy, Apr 5, 2021 at 10:44 PM.

  1. BiBoyToy

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    I've been thinking about coming out to everyone, but I'm not sure if I should/need to/want to, etc.

    I have a sibling that came out to everyone as a transgender woman a few years ago and it went pretty well. Both of my parents were pretty accepting (my mom more so than my dad). My two other siblings were also pretty accepting of her gender identity as well.

    Awhile after my sister came out, I told her and one of my other siblings that I was bisexual and they were both very accepting but had a lot of questions, "have you ever done anything with another guy? Who was it with? What did you do?, etc." Which I was perfectly fine with. They are the only two people that I have came out to and they told me that they haven't told anyone. However, I do think my mom and dad etc. have an idea that I'm bisexual, for various reasons.

    I'm sure if I told my parents and my other sibling, they would be just as accepting. As for my childhood friends, I think most of them would be accepting for the most part but I'm sure some of them would make jokes, etc.

    As for why I said I'm not sure if I need to/want to is because I don't really think my bisexuality has any implications in my life. Unless, of coarse, I started dating a guy/had a boyfriend, which I'm open to but I don't think is super likely to happen. In all honesty, at this point, I would rather just hook up or have a friend with benefits (like I did when I was younger) whenever I'm single.

    So, should I come out?

    I really appreciate your thoughts, opinions, perspective, or advice!
     
    #1 BiBoyToy, Apr 5, 2021 at 10:44 PM
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  2. Comrade

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    I suggest that if you feel ready you should :grin: ! But, it will be hard. That's what we're here for.
     
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    I believe that if it's truly bothering you of the idea that they don't know (I'm thinking if you're posting this, surely you want them to know) then you should be able to tell them, especially if you believe they'll be accepting of it. And it feels even more secured because you've already had a sibling that came out, so why not take a risk? Like the above poster said, you have us as a support!
     
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    I think you should tell them but it will be hard. You will need a lot of courage but dont rush tell them when your when your ready and take your time.
     
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    Honesty and authenticity is important in any relationship. If you feel that holding on to that secret is impacting your ability to be open in any way, then it makes sense to tell them. Otherwise, not important until/unless you are seeing a guy.
     
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    Thanks for the advice so far everyone. I'm sure I'll eventually come out, but I think I'm going to hold off for awhile. Similar to what @Chip said, if start seeing or dating a guy then I'll definitely come out sooner than later.
     
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    My best of luck to you!
     
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    Thank you so much, @Comrade.
     
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    My pleasure, friend :slight_smile:
    Tell me how it goes.
     
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    Will do!
     
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