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Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by latinluis, Sep 14, 2020.

  1. latinluis

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    Hi i have 31 and honestly i had struggled a little bit with relationships, hook-ups about getting an orgasm or jerking off or me bottoming, and maintaining an erection but when im masturbating is more easy for me

    im a super anxious person and relaxation during sex is not an option.. is like i want to do it right

    first what is a orgasm

    how to overcome the masturbation situation

    help
     
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  2. Chip

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    OK, so your post is sort of a run-on jumble of words with no punctuation, so it's a little difficult to figure out exactly what you are trying to ask.

    As for the "what is an orgasm"... in men, orgasm is usually (though not always) tied to ejaculation, and generally occurs after stimulation of the penis (either from sex or from masturbation.) It is a pleasant feeling that can be really intense.

    As for the "how to overcome the masturbation situation", you haven't described what situation you're trying to overcome.
     
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    Yes thats true i preferred to masturbate instead fuck and also masturbating i have a good time and fucking is like never ending never cum until i think about porn scenes
     
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    Maybe you've been watching too much porn? So now you need exactly those often unrealistic scenarios to help you feel good, everything else is too boring to your brain.
    Maybe try taking a break, it's not as hard as it sounds
    I could be wrong though, of course
     
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    If sex is a chore and not something that you enjoy then why not just stop doing it? Especially if you do enjoy masturbation. I, for more complicated reasons, stopped having sex about a decade ago and I am pretty happy about deciding on self care.
     
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    I'm not sure I see the problem. If you enjoy masturbating and don't enjoy anal sex, then... keep masturbating and give up the anal sex. :slight_smile: A pretty large portion of gay men in committed relationships don't do anal.

    Now... if you are saying that there's a problem, you'll need to be more clear on what the problem is.
     
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    Yes i enjoy it and makes me horny but my erections goes down in the middle of the practice and happened he same masturbating but i want to fuck a ass and my erection still up to the end...
    i just want to understand why i can masturbate normally and fucking is not holding the erection to the last... also i get tired when last a lot ...

    about the porn i can agree i think i have a miss conception about sex because i watch a lot of porn trying to masturbate and dont have sex with random people
     
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