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Really confused

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Extremelylost, Oct 17, 2016.

  1. Extremelylost

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    So, a little about myself. I'm 24 and all my life I've always been attracted to girls. No questions asked and whatnot. I've never been repulsed about seeing gay guys kissing and stuff and never really thought about at it all as it never affected me. Recently though, for the past few weeks now, I've been having these dreams. It starts off with me dating this woman for a while and when we finally decide to get intimate, she reveals that she has a penis. In my dream I apparently am ok with it and still proceed to have intercourse. Well I assume so, I normally wake up before going through with it completely. I have tried looking into it and have spoken with a few friends about it. I have come to the terms that I probably would be ok with dating a woman even if she did have a penis. But what does that make me? I'm still not entirely attracted to men, and I bhave tried watching gay porn but it still does nothing for me. Yet when I tried watching men with transgendered women I do get aroused. My friends tell me I'm probably pansexual. As I wouldnt care too much about what my partner has as long as we can connect. I'm the type of person who doesn't care how hot someone is, if we can't connect then I basically don't get much just hy looking at them. If that makes sense. I'm just really confused. I mean why now at 24 am I feeling different about all this?
     
  2. Smores

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    Well, to start off, orientation can change just like your taste in clothes. It doesn't have to be this set thing. Also, pansexual may fit but if it doesn't feel right, you don't have to choose a label. Sexuality is something that's different for everyone, and can change. I hope this was helpful.
     
  3. HappyGirlLucky

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    It just sounds like you are straight to me, but you don't care about the parts the woman has. A woman with a penis is still a woman, so unless you are attracted to men you sound straight to me. :slight_smile:
     
  4. Nightdream

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    You sound straight. Maybe a little demisexual as you're more interested in the woman's personality than her genitals or her general looks. You don't appear to have any desire to be with men by your post.