Racism in the LGBTQ+ community...

I see gays hating on lesbian.

 

And bisexual hate transexual

 

It's not just the LGBT community. It's also the straight community. It's everywhere. It also goes in both directions.

White people sometimes say no to non-white people, either directly or indirectly, when looking to date, hook up, or find a significant other. I've not known many gay and bi men and women and how they go about dating. That's because they're not looking or they're with someone. I've known quite a few straight women and they talk about what they're looking for. I've known some Asian women and Hispanic women and Middle Eastern women who have no interest in dating their own men and they put that out there. What does that say about them? And what about men of those backgrounds who feel the same way when the tables are turned?

This has been going on for a long time and will continue to exist. I've only seen it get slightly better. The media is showing us less and less lighter skinned white people as normative role models so that's a start. It requires a paradigm shift and that's not an easy thing to bring about.

 

Well I feel that I have experienced some sort of discriminaton on "hook up apps." I mean the guy would ask for pic(mostly this has happened from White/Anglo gay or bi guys), and I would send it to them. And without any comment, I would get blocked. Granted, I'm not a muscular/White cisgender bi or gay guy or White in general. I am a non-White Hispanic(Mexican American), mostly masculine/bi curious male. I mean without any comment sometimes I get blocked for any pic I would send to some guys...either I get "Your not my type..." and get a block. I mean what the fuck.

 

Yes.

Yes.

I've heard the caustic comments going in both directions. I don't know how this supports the notion of a "community" where the simple idea of why can't we all get along is in effect. Easier said than done.

 

I've heard that criticism of the guys. The criticisms I've heard more going in both directions have to do with mannerisms and external things. I don't make any comments. I just sit there and be a sponge and let all these observations soak in.

 

I think some gay man are woman-hater.

 

The app is built in a way where you're forced to block people often. The free version only displays about 100 guys at a time, so once you've looked at or talked to those 100 the only way to get more than a handful of new ones to show up is to start blocking them, because then it takes the 10 you blocked and replaces them with 10 new people you'd never have seen otherwise.

So if you already know you aren't into someone, at that point not blocking them just causes them to waste one of your 100 spots forever, but if you do block them a new person you might actually be into will appear. Most blocks are out of necessity not anything personal. It sucks when someone blocks instantly after a pic is sent, they should at least say something or wait a while, but for people who use the apps often they've blocked so many hundreds of people they just don't care anymore and want a new person to show up as fast as possible.

 

I mean I've been chatting off and on since about Oct 2018 with a guy named Nathan I met on an app. I mean he's gay and he knows I'm a bit curious and stuff, and we exchanged pics and stuff. Anyway, he and I texted off online through text messages and Facebook messenger. Nathan is white and he's cool, and he didn't judge me or my pics....

I mean uptight cisgender White guy(gay or bi or whatever) some would block me whenever I would send a pics(non XXX or XXX), they determine if you are a fit. I mean sort of like the bar/club bouncer.

 

I have the Subscription service for my app and Nathan lives in a diff city than me. I can't snap my fingers and see him tomorrow, but I do talk to him. He talks to me on FB now instead of the app.

 

Not to be mean, but what do you expect from an application filled with people who are not interested in anything but primal urges? I see this pattern so often talking to others in this community... If you want someone who cares about you more than just reaching orgasm, you are clearly looking in the wrong place. You are a replaceable piece of meat on apps like that, as it was designed. Go on a website that allows you to date instead of engaging in meaningless sex from the words biggest congregation of STD's.

I see this first hand, and is one of the items that points out a problem in lumping so many different groups together. From my experience, there is few groups with less in common than lesbians and gays. The only unifying aspect is they are both a sexual preference minority. I will say that I agree mostly with the (biological) women on this subject. (sorry MTF females, you have more unsafe sex than anyone, and it shows in the HIV statistics)

"Transgender women are the fastest-growing population of HIV-positive people in the country....Transgender women of color are at an even greater risk for HIV infection than their white peers. The NIH study noted that African-American and Latina transgender women had the highest infection rates; among those transgender women of color surveyed, more than 56% of black trans women were HIV-positive, and Latina trans women had an HIV infection rate of 16%."
https://www.hivplusmag.com/case-stu...men-why-transgender-women-are-hit-so-hard-hiv

The gay community lost most of a generation because of unsafe sexual degeneracy in the 80's, and it seems like we won't learn from our mistakes. A lot of the of the structures that criticize the promiscuous lifestyles being lived by the LGBT community are based around the fact that the gay and trans community have become a venereal cesspool, and everyone alive in the 80's heard/saw gay men dropping like flies continually because they were too lazy or stupid to use a condom even after they knew they were spreading a deadly disease. How you get the community to realize they are harming not only their body's, but the entire community reputation?

 

I am sorry if I misunderstood that you were talking specifically about people who stated they were interested in networking or frienship. In that case, I agree that if it is based on race that it is a problem.

What I have noticed more often than not (especially having lived my life in mostly conservative areas) that it more likely ties to ideology rather than race if you provide a lot of information on your description. There is a massive difference in ideology in this country right now, and the fact is that Caucasians are likely to be conservative or libertarian whereas minorities are likely to be liberal, socialist, or communist. It is not likely for a conservative person who believes in being responsible for their own actions to respect someone who believes that people are not capable of being responsible for themselves and must be guided through life like sheeple reliant on the government.

For example, if I am looking for business connections on a site and the person states that they are a communist/socialist, there is no value talking to them as they see me as an entrepreneur as evil for wanting to reap the financially fruits from my own work. They also clearly do not understand economics.

The other issue is that a lot of people (Caucasians especially) don’t believe in identarian politics, and would rather not talk to anyone over hearing a racist diatribe about how all whites are evil if they are not an SJW. If you had something eluding to social justice in your profile, I would block you as its not even productive to have a conversation as you can’t use logic to change an illogical though process.

I think this highlights the difference in ideologies perfect. It is the concept of personal responsibility vs believing the government has to train you on every subject and be responsible for you. I grew up in a 95%+ Conservative population that we did not have any LGBT sex education at all, and had only heterosexual abstinence based education. Condoms were not shown how to be used. Before I began engaging in sex, I spent the time to research how to be safe. With the internet today, that is incredibly easy. Even children in the ghettos of the US have access to the internet, and most have cellphones. It is not the governments responsibility to teach you.

Its interesting that you say that you knew... Why exactly was that? Did you take the personal responsibility to ensure your safety as all humans should be expected to do?

I hate to use this quote, but facts don't care about your feelings. It is a direct fact confirming the LGBT community is not acting in a manner it should. Instead of blaming it on education, how about taking responsibility that the LGBT culture that has been created is unacceptable in terms of sexual health... Look at the way LGBT people present themselves in parades. Its completely inappropriate to be in public in ass-less leather chaps if your straight, but it is expected to be celebrated in an LGBT "pride" march? A culture of drugs and promiscuity is to blame for it, going back before the 1980's.

I would say that being LGBT and engaged to a guy that the absolute lack of self control to take responsibility for their own actions and health is the biggest thing that disgust me about the community. When I was single it was depressing to see how 95% of gay dating websites are nothing besides casual sex/std portals filled with people not interested in relationships, and many specifically asking for bareback which is basically asking if you want to get HIV at this point.

I will say this:

If you are going to put the effort into meeting someone and having sex with them and you do not spend the effort on protecting yourself, you are either:
A.) Lazy
B.) Stupid

Until our society starts calling out this type of behavior, re-instills the understanding that you are responsible for yourself and your own actions, and damaging behavior will be called as such, we have stunted our growth as a society.

LGBT has the highest STD rate of any group in the US, which given our nations already disgusting number of STD rates in the US it would undoubtedly qualify for being called a cesspool. Feminazis has tried to wage war on “slut shaming” in the last decade, but they don’t seem to realize that the reason that society frowns on being a slut is that it is not safe and more than likely your going to end up with at least one STD in short time. We in the LGBT community need to shame those spreading diseases within our community too. It is not inclusive or kind to support this damaging degeneracy in our community.