Heello good people! Sooo I am a 19 year old guy and I've been questioning my sexuality for the past 2 years. For the first 17 years I was straight as a ruler although I have been told that i look a little gay because I have a little shortage of testosterone and it doesn't allow me to grow a beard etc . Then... 2 years ago out of nowhere I started questioning my sexuality, asking myself if I was gay and so on! Right, seems like no reason for concern however every single day it has gotten worse, I started fancying guys, looking at them just as much as women (probably even more now), I started liking the thought of being with a guy. I dream of men more often than women, I am starting to become romantically attracted to guys. Now I decided to post here because I am more into guys than I am into girls and it keeps getting developing constantly. I am also naturally rather submissive and imagine myself being a bottom in a gay relationship. My question to you is... Do you think it is a phase and I will turn back to being straight or am I becoming gay? This is a weird one becauee I pretty much never questioned my sexuality before the age of 17 and now I think I am becoming gay... help! :icon_bigg
Since you still experience opposite-gender attraction I'd say you're bi rather than gay, though you almost definitely have a male preference. It's possible that you may have been in denial all these years, which would have prevented you from registering your same-gender attraction, let alone experiencing the full extent of it. This happened to me: I went through a lot of my life believing I was straight until it suddenly occurred to me that I was attracted to both genders, and from that moment I became much more aware of my feelings of attraction towards people of the same gender.
Who knows? A lot of people fluctuate, a lot don't. It's also not abnormal to realise your homosexual attractions later on, like at 18, if you're bi - so at least a little bit straight.