Porn is like drinking saltwater when you're thirsty.

Some people do feel shame and disgust while watching porn sometimes its because they came from a repressed background or were taught that sexual pleasure is only meant to be experienced between two people during a monogamous relationship - this opinion is usually coupled with a hetero normative.

Also as you aren't involved in the action it can leave people feeling a little "dirty" and guilty for taking pleasure in it. Your reasoning could be based a ton of different stuff from perceptions of yourself or external pressures/norms and experiences but you're certainly not alone in these feelings for sure.

Bare in mind porn can become addictive its more likely than not its just your curiosity and its bringing up emotions for you but if your watching a lot or are getting a lot of consuming thoughts are about it, it's probably time to dial back.

After all it's not a substitute for the real thing and porn isn't usually an accurate depiction of it either. Getting to know yourself sexually in all forms is a process.

 

I am pretty horny, so porn does the trick. I can only go like 6 months though without human contact, or I start to go insane.

 

Porn bores me tbh but when I get horny, I tend to watch whatever turns me on but I feel so disgusted AFTER.

 

Dude , seriously ?
I just discovered the gay porn and we're having a blast with it, lmao. People like me need visuals as instruction .
Chillax ....take some breaths , it's not made (porn) to be directed at you in some vindictive manner or with ulterior motives .

 

I feel the same way about it.

EpicConfusion, there are some videos out there that are really centred about love and romance. Perhaps you will like those, though they are not easy to find.

Personally, I very rarely watch porn, because I often feel that romance is missing or that it is too staged. You might be the same in that regard, I'm not sure.

 

Here's my main problem with porn. Alot of the time even when it's hot actors, watching them is boring if they just do all the same old things I've seen before. I stray from studio porn stars cause I can tell when they're just going through the motions and pretending to enjoy it and that always takes me out of it. They even tend to follow the most basic formula possible formula of Making out > BJ's > anal which normally bores me quickly. Sex should be exciting, surprising, spontaneous, etc. Most of the time I find Amateur stuff actually captures that better or at least includes more variety. The downside is you sometimes get worse audio and video quality but, that doesn't bother me like it does some people. My golden rule for Porn is pretty much, it's not about what you got but how you use it. Skill and style always win out over looks alone~ that's what separates the good stuff from the trash which there unfortunately is alot of.

Anyway here's a few possibilities. Maybe the videos or actors you've been watching aren't so much your type? I usually experiment with different sites and search words every time to keep things interesting. Maybe you're more interested in the romantic aspects of sex which the vast majority of porn barely features prominently. Perhaps you're disillusioned by artificial studio studio sex and prefer to watch the real thing in which case I recommend you try more homemade stuff. (Can't get anymore organic than a good old fashioned striptease!~ ) Or maybe, porn just isn't your thing in the first place. Some people love it while others don't really care about it. In the end I wouldn't really worry about it cause everyone's idea of it is more or less different anyway.

 

This right here is golden rule about sex not only porn.

I share your boredom over porn. They are predictible and most of the time it screams fake.

This is why I prefer bara manga or written erotica over movies. They stimulate your mind as much as your tool.

 

Oh yeah I can't believe I forgot written stuff involves alot more imagination and leaves more room for romantic/emotional involvement. Perhaps erotica or slashfics might provide a refreshing alternative to porn. I use images alot too cause they pretty much showcase the beauty of the human body without the extra hassle of acting or filming everthing. Depending how creative they get with poses and angles a few pictures can be as fulfilling as a 5 minute video.

 

porn creates a false impression what sex really is.

For instance...just when i was thinking that porn gives the wrong idea that all girls are bi or lesbians then i watched gay porn and noticed how its actually worse.

I mean...in one movie a guy approaches another hot guy on a bike and tells him how hot he is and they both start kissing 0_0. Or even funnier...once i was watching two guys meeting on the street and the first one is saying: "where are you from" - 2nd one: "czech republic", 1st one: "omg i am from there two" -> then they start to make out....seriously?

 

@lemons123: The stories are sometimes (or more than sometimes) not very realistic indeed

 

omg are you Dutch? Let's make out! lols....

 

Porn is kind of boring. I need mental stimulation to masturbate, but I can achieve that from masturbating in front of a mirror.

 

Am I the only one who finds the hottest part of porn the making out/brief foreplay? Any kind of intimate kissing/touching really gets me turned on.. :icon_redf

At this point I'm flowing with hormones that the next part is something I'll accept and enjoy. But once those hormones are gone, I do have a strange feeling because I've suddenly lost all interest in the sexual act I was previously enjoying. I don't feel disgusted, just confused, but I carry on with life regardless.