I am writing an email to my parents letting them know that I am trans. Any advise on what I can include in it?
steadfast87.....I don't think I have any good advice as to what you should put in it, but I can suggest that you write the email...and then don't send it...at least don't send the first draft! Let it sit for a few hours or maybe a day, then go back over it. You'll probably want to rephrase some things, add some things or even delete part of it. Just give yourself a few days to go over the email until it feels "right". Usually, the first draft is not the best version! I sure hope that this goes well for you...keep us posted here on empty closets...you are a part of our LGBTQ Family! .....David
This is what I have so far, any critique is welcome; Mom, I am writing you this email to get this off my chest. As a child, I knew something wasn't right with me. I just didn't fit in with the other boys in class. Which brings me to the point of this email. The truth is that I am transgender. I also value your support. I hope that you understand that this isn't just a phase that I am going through and it has taken me years to find and accept myself for who I really am. This may come as a shock to you and for that, I am sorry. But being born in the wrong body hasn't been easy for me at all. And the reason that I haven't expressed it growing up is because I was afraid to, due to being bullied in school all the time and I didn't want to make things worse for myself. So, to come to some sort of conclusion here, I have been generally unhappy for most of my life, and I think we’ve all seen it, even if no one could define the underlying cause of the means to make it better. And I now wish to take the necessary steps to become the person that I have seen in myself since I was a child.
It's a beautiful message and seems quite heartfelt. It must have taken you much time drafting it. It's alway difficult putting into words such an emotional message from the heart. I don't know how well versed your mother is. While you refer to it (being born in the wrong body) perhaps explain in a little more detail what transgender means just in case? You may also wish to express your love for her and your sincere wish to have her full support as you undertake this new chapter in your life. I do wish you well! I hope you mother gives you her unconditional love and support when you tell her.
I agree with this. You want your mother to accept you, her support and continued presence in your life, right ? Tell her how much all of that means to you. Also go a little bit in depth about how your body feels wrong for you. Just a few more sentences. Tell her that changing your body isn’t going to change your essence. You will always be her child, just a lot more happier. I would suggest that you do talk to her in person after your send the mail. Sometimes our parents just need see our emotions to get an idea of how important somethings are for us. A good letter or a mail might work but it is more like an ice breaker. Just sit her down, explain how you felt all these years and how the changes will be better for your future. I wish you all the very best and hope you continue receiving your mother’s support and success in all your endeavors. Take care. Have a nice day. V.