Yesterday I told my children that I have been struggling with something the past couple of years. I told them that their mother is attracted to other women. I explained to them that the friend that I have become close to over a period of months is their Mum's girlfriend. I then had to clarify that it is different from friend, as my daughter was confused. I explained that I have many good friends who are only that and just one girlfriend. I feel I owe it to them to be honest about my relationship, given that is not some kind of casual fling. I explained that most people in our society don't have a problem with gay relationships but that some people do - a bit like some people are racist. I said that this didn't mean I would ever leave them as I am a Mum first and so is my girlfriend, but it might mean they would meet her for a joint family day trip sometime this Spring. I said they could ask me questions later if they felt worried or anxious about anything. I do feel terribly vulnerable now but at least I can look my children directly in the eye and say "This is me."