Only the Lonely

same here. i dont think i could handle rejection anymore. its why i push away from people. ive been rejected in high school when i tried making friends. that was when ive had it. its why the internet is an awesome place to make friends, because you will talk with people who understand you.. its easier to find people online than in real life

 

As said in an earlier post I can totally relate to a lot of what has been said here. I have very few people in my life due to my own issues & shutting people out. I don't really see anyone regularly & am that friend that seems to cancel or make excuses not to hang out even though I desperately want to. My depression & anxieties are crippling some days. Even online I find it difficult. There have been many times, both in real life & online, that I have wanted to contribute to conversations & just can't bring myself to do so. As much as I like to think I have a strong, carefree, don't give a crap type attitude I think it comes from a deep seeded fear of being judged. I don't know how to get out of this huge whole in my life I've dug myself into. It's so bad that I don't like myself at all any more. I have a young son & this is not the example I want to be setting for him.

 

Hi sweetie I read your post. Your situation sounds like what I actually go through when I try to talk to people/strangers and even my own so called family. Honestly I can't stand em. Anyway I have trouble taking to people so after awhile I stopped trying.

I guess my best advice is just do you. Be yourself. If you meet somepony and you hit it off, great. If not, no big loss you know? Might be disappointing but not really a big loss if you really didn't feel like it wouldn't have worked out anyways. I'm sorry that has been happening to you. Wish I could say more.

 

I have in the past but it has been years. I believe in therapy & have been thinking of going back for quite a while now. It's just a matter of taking the first step. I think once I get back into it committing won't be a problem.

I appreciate the response. Its nice to feel like at least someone is listening. Loneliness sucks. Hopefully together we can all get through these issues.

 

This thread is such a good thing for me to see right now. Like, it's super sad that so many people feel lonely, but at least I can see that I'm not alone in my loneliness (ha-ha).

I keep somehow losing my friends, not even because I shut them out - it just happens. One friend moved away for uni, one friend got a girlfriend and dropped me like a hot potato, I dated a friend and now that that's over we don't really talk anymore, and I have to take a break from my remaining good friend who lives in the same area because I have unrequited feelings for him.
I feel like there's no one left. I have a couple friends I really like but they don't live in the same country and it's hard to stay in touch all the time.

Anyway, I guess we're all in the lonely people-club together. I wish I had some advice but I'm afraid I'm a bit lost myself :dry:

 

I guess ill join this lonely club too and ramble a bit because i cant sleep and i feel the same way you people do. Maybe it might help someone else out.

I graduated high school with barely any connections because i have social anxiety. Our class would do things together like have little meetups and i would sometimes say i would go but i was too afraid to even though i knew everything would be fine. So now im here without any real direction or friends while being too poor for collage and i live in a quiet place where not much happens so its hard to find new people. (Also all the jobs are taken)

But its fine because i know im not alone in this feeling and sometimes you just need to realize that (I know i need to). Well im sure we will eventually find more connections but it takes time.

Thanks guys for being lonely.