Ok - Let's do this.....so proud of my son!

I think you may have a whole bunch of teenagers on this board asking you to adopt them! Not only did you do this right--you should write a manual. Bravo.

 

AS ABOVE (with lump in throat) :icon_wink

 

Welcome to EC, Nothin but love!

I second Choirboy's remarks, you are a terrific mother! It is natural to feel afraid, heck, I'm gay and would still feel apprehensive for my three kids if any one of them came out to me.

He seems remarkably mature for his age, this can only come from a proper upbringing and the trust he has developed with you.

As you read more coming out stories here, you will see that yours is an all too rare case of love, acceptance and understanding.

Well done!

 

Agh, this is a prime example of awesome parenting. I'm sure he's absolutely glad he has a mother like you, because I would.

But yeah, he should be wary of it getting spread. I recall telling just a few people I was interested in girls in the 6th grade and before I knew it, EVERYBODY in my class knew about it. Wasn't a pleasant experience.

Good on him for being confident and proud about who he is, because that's one of the most important things. As long as he's comfortable being him, I think he'll be okay. Just keep being supportive, because (I'd figure) that's often what a lot of LGBT kids feel - they don't have support.

You have a great day.

 

I think it's absolutely lovely how supportive you're being with your son, it reminds me of how my own mother and father acted and it's so good to see how remarkably mature your son is about this and I really hope it all goes well and wish him the best of luck! (*hug*)

 

Forget the teenagers I want her to adopt me! xD

 

I can't think of a more perfect way to go about this - top marks for being an excellent mum!

In sixth form (college in the UK 16-18yrs) I was in a relationship with a girl for a year. In the end I realised what your son realised, that I love her but not in the way she will need me to. I was totally honest with her but I did not explain initially that I was gay. I simply explained that I did not love her in that way any more (as I had finally settled and accepted my homosexuality) and left it at that. Fortunately we were best of friends and over time I felt it was the time to tell her. She was a bit upset about it but after a short period of adjustment and me being honest and patient with her questions she understood and we are still very good friends now.

I hope this anecdote is of some help to you in understanding how your son could go about breaking up with his girlfriend.

Lastly, I would just like to say that your son's attitude is truly commendable and he is a credit to you and your parenting skills, you have every right to be proud of him. I agree with his tactic of letting people 'figure it out' and think that is the perfect approach. Frankly it is no one else's business and like any one else's private life, should be treated as such.

Best wishes,

Adam

 

Wow you are like the coolest mom ever. I'm 32 and know my mom is gonna freak when I tell her (if I decide to tell her)

 

I can only pray that my parents will be half this accepting.

 

Wow. You're an amazing mom. I wanted to cry and hug you when I read your story. haha. I look forward to hearing more from you on this site. Stick around!!

 

First of all :welcome:
Second of all... WOULD YOU PLEASE ADOPT ME!!! I'm only kidding, but you did things the perfect way, and I believe that after some time, you should write a manual for other parents to follow if their child turns out to be a part of the LGBT community. As the admin Chip could tell you, my mother and I didn't see eye to eye on the whole thing. Okay, completely different levels, I got shouted at, but when I'd say I wanted to go out on a walk to let her cool off, she'd threaten to call the police and say I was a runaway. I just want to hug you and thank you for handling this better than most parents on the face of earth handle things like this.

But anyway, back to your son's problem, while I agree with Chip's idea that his girlfriend might go and tell everybody in school. But, just because some girls are like that and would tell anybody with ears, doesn't mean she would do the same. I am out to a few friends who have been helpful, okay not so much helpful as they are non-deserting. Some have been supporting and even offered to help me find a date (yet to get so lucky) So, you should advise your son of what might happen. It's not a guarantee that she'll blab to anybody, but it's not unheard of either

You should invite your son to this website, though, at first, when you tell him about it, he may be embarrassed that his mom went and found a support website for him, but he should definitely be on here, it's been helpful to me, and I'm getting to where I just may be comfortable in coming out to people at school.

Good luck

 

I just want to say how AWESOME of a mother you are! I'm very glad you were so accepting of your son, and that he was brave enough to tell you. If you want to show your son this site but don't want him to see this post, I think one of the mods or admins could make it anonymous for you. Best of luck to you and your son

 

You deserve this... :

Sadly, I can only give you this... :

But I can tell you for sure... you got this and your son is a lucky lucky dude! I'm sure he'll love you for the rest of his life, and pass on your awesomeness someday

 

I realize I'm just echoing what many hear have said, but I wish I had a mom I felt half as comfortable confiding in as your son does confiding in you. Your discussion with your son is more than the best case scenario of a conversation with my mom, it's an impossible ideal.

 

Believe me, you deserve each and every ounce of support and praise that has been directed your way. It's hard for a straight person to understand the amount of fear and consternation that most LGBT people go through before coming out - and all too often after all of that they're met with rejection, or with hatred, fear. And even when they are met with acceptance, oftentimes there is a hint of disappointment behind the acceptance - and that's just coming out to our parents.

The fact that you made this process so easy for your son - that he felt so safe and able to come out to you [from the sound of it] without having to go through that long and painful process is one of the most wonderful things I have heard in a long, long time. All of us here who are saying we wish our parents could be like you are not kidding. Though your response might have seemed like the only thing to do in your mind, the reality is that you are the wonderful exception to a bleak and intimidating rule.

I wish you and your son the best of luck in the future. Just keep doing what you're doing, your support is exactly what he needs right now and you're doing a beautiful job.

 

Amazing! Be my mum, yeah? K thanks