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Nervous about giving head for the first time

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Clefan550, Nov 30, 2017.

  1. Clefan550

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    Hello, this is my first thread so I’m sorry if it’s in the wrong location.

    I’m a male and never been with another man in my life...but I’ve been curious about giving head for years. I always get nervous though and back out when the opportunity comes to actually do it. 80% of the porn I look at is blowjobs/cumshots/sissy etc where I imagine I’m the girl. I even came on my own face yesterday because I was so horny thinking about it. I want to suck finally...does anyone have any advice on how I can get over my nerves of doing it?
     
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    Hi, and welcome to EC.

    I don't think there's any magic suggestion that will make it more comfortable for you. As much as anything, there may be an underlying fear that if you do this, it sort of moves you in the direction of accepting that you're gay... which may not be something that feels right or is something you're ready to deal with.

    But as for actually making it happen... really, it comes down to your own willingness to simply go for it and give it a try. As sexual activity goes, it is relatively low risk if you're reasonably smart about who you meet and where and so forth, so there's nothing wrong with doing so. (This assumes you're single and wouldn't be cheating on a spouse or partner. Whole different ballgame if you're in a relationship.)

    It's got to be nerve wracking to consider opening yourself up to this, and at the same time, it's also a courageous action to explore your feelings. Please keep us in the loop if you are so inclined, and I'd encourage you to keep talking about what you're feeling, as that's one of the easiest ways to move things forward with your life.
     
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    Thanks for replying. Well I’m not “gay” because I am only attracted to cocks, and orally at that. I don’t find guys attractive or have any interest in kissing them, anal, or having a relationship with them. And I love women. So you might consider me to be bi. But I don’t really think that label is the reason why I’m nervous.

    Well I might finally do it this weekend. I just came on my own face again tonight. I’ll let you know if I go through with it. Thanks
     
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    Try not to worry about it too much. It'll come very naturally. Even if you aren't "good" the other person probably won't care. A blowjob is a blowjob.