I have recently come to the conclusion that I am terrible at dates. So I could use some very basic, general advice. I guess I have two main questions: 1. How do I know that a date went well? It seems really obvious, but it isn't to me. I went on a first date today and we talked and she was nice but it didn't really feel different from meeting a new friend, you know? The only difference was that I paid for both our coffees but there was no "romantic spark" or anything. I honestly don't care whether or not I go out with this person again. If she asks I'll say yes, but I just don't know her well enough to be all that invested, and she's just not someone I was immediately strongly attracted to or anything. So is a date where you just sit and talk a "successful" date? There were some awkward pauses but also some good conversation. 2. How do you go from talking to touching? This is super difficult for me, even with people I know a bit better. The last person I dated and really liked was a friend first before we dated and if she hadn't kissed me first it would have never happened. It just baffles me when people just casually fall into a more touchy-feely kind of behaviour and make it all look natural. I'm so bad at this - help!