My thoughts today..

Just keep in mind that my insights are very specific to my wife and I. She's always been 'bi" to me, i met her through my lesbian best friend in fact. And no they didn't date... that would be weird lol. So it wasn't something totally new to me. That and the fact that peoples sexuality is near and dear to my heart make it a lot easier. So yah if I can help feel free to ask just remember we're deal with things differently

 

I love labels too heh or just words I guess.. the right word for the right thing. It's really what does it mean to you. You know something funny, in my mind the word queer means strange, and not in a bad way. In a "not typical" kind of way. I have to give it a few seconds for my brain to say oo yah.. that word can refer to homosexual people too lol I think I read too many old books growing up.

 

I'm sad no one asked about my wifes lunch date? Ok not sad but it's really odd helping her pick out something to wear. Just not exactly how I saw my life a few weeks ago..

 

LOL I DON'T KNOW YET.. AHHHHHH hhhh lol
Her date isn't for another couple of hours . On the US west coast over here it's still morning. I helped her pick out her top and a necklace this morning, and reminded her to shave lol So is it a little odd that the women is 15 years older? idk, it's just funny that the woman we had the threesome/poly relations with was around 10 years younger. It doesn't really concern me, like i said before i'm hopeful her age will be an indication of her maturity, it's just that i've never dated anyone 15 years different in age. do you guys have any experience with this kind of age gap? and if you don't mind me asking, how old are ya'll. *i can say ya'll i grew up in the south* I'm 37 and my wifes 35

 

She's not really sure it's a proper date.. she kind of explained the conversation a little. It went something like, they were talking about her kids, my wife asked what was up with her husband. *she knew she lived with the father of her kids and that something wasn't' adding up* Laura told my wife that they had be divorced for 5 years. She asked how that worked with dating people and bringing them home. laura explained that it's more of a separate apartment type of thing plus she wasn't dating anyone right then. I'm not sure how she brought this up but then asked about who she liked to date, men? women? both? she said both, and then here is the part I wouldn't of had the balls to do... *i hate asking people out* my wife asked if she wanted to do something sometime. she said of course, or something like that. and they made plans for lunch and a movie today. I realize there is a decent chance it isn't a . proper date, but come on.. she just said that she was single liked women then my wife asked her to go do something together.. it feels more like a date. but we will see.
So they met at the gym i think.... You know my wife told me but now i'm unsure I think she does massages at the gym or something. They've known each other for a little bit now... a couple of months i think. They did go out to a taylor swift concert a week or two ago. So they seem to get along pretty good.

 

Will do, I need to find something else to focus on for a few hours lol. I know.. Christmas stuff... work on Christmas stuff lol

 

So she's out on her date now... probably won't know anything more until it's over. cra cra

 

And the date went well... apparently she's been attracted to my wife for a little bit. It got cut short because my wife got called back into work, but other than that she had a really good time. Laura brought her a flower.. in a pot... lol it's really a better way to do it but it's also so much more responsibility..I'm probably going to be the one that has to keep it alive.. :/ Anyway they're going to see each other again, laura was a little surprised at my stance on things. I think now that we know this is moving forward i'm going to ask for her number and introduce myself a little. I'd like to keep paths of communication open.

 

Thanks all, my wife already mentioned that she wasn't ready for me to say hi to Laura yet. For many of the reasons you guys mentioned above. So it's seems that I was out voted lol. No really, like I told my wife. Her relationship her call. But also I think the sooner the better. She asked my wife if I would have a problem with her texting affectionate messages. And this is just not the right mindset. It's not about me, that's between them. I don't like her having to second guess what she would do because of me. And also, if I had any kind of problem with something I'd talk to my wife. I'm not going to get upset with Laura. I'm good to wait, but less time is better imho.