So when I was in 4/5th grade I started to wonder if I was gay. And I really thought I was. Hell I even told like 2 people. (They weren't my parents thank Christ) I also thought I was aro too. I'm not sure when it happened but I totally put it out of my mind and told myself I was straight and that it wasn't important. But recently it's been hitting me again. Im pretty sure I'm bi (I've had crushes on boys and girls, real life and fictional, from a very young age.) but it's really hard for me to say that. Like I'm bi, ME? Really? I live in a pretty gay friendly community but what will people say? What if this is just another phase? God help me
If you feel attracted to boys and girls then you are likely bi. From what I understand you said its really hard for you to say that you are bi, thats ok! You dont need to label yourself as anything until you feel 100% comfortable. I told myself often that liking girls was a phase. It wasnt. Take time to find yourself and understand your feelings, when you feel confident in what you are feeling I would say its then the right time to come out.
Damn I got a response this early! I have a friend who I know is also bi and I might wanna talk to her about it, feel more confident and such
Haha yup, I try to respond quickly because when I was younger and hadnt found this website I had no one to talk to which really didnt help me all that much lol. Its a good idea to talk to your friend if you feel comfortable, she can probably help you if shes also bi. Also, remember you always have us here on EC!
I'd say, don't worry about it. Like don't even think about it for the next 2 years. After year 3 and you find that you're STILL thinking about it, you're probably gonna know by then if you're LGBT. Even if you aren't though, don't forget about us! I love allies ^_^
No rush to label yourself. It took me about eight years to a decade after reaching puberty to come out to myself. I had a lot of struggles but you become more comfortable as time goes on.
Don't worry about labels, in the long run they mean nothing. It took me a very long time to come to terms with myself that I was not straight. Also, don't worry about what people say, it may hurt at the moment, but in the long run it means nothing. Take Care Dean
