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My Seventh Gay Birthday

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by quebec, Dec 25, 2021.

  1. quebec

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    Hello All.....Each year on Christmas day I get to add one more year to the life that I have lived on the "other side" of the dividing line that happened to me on December 25, 2014. On that night I had what I call my "final" crisis of sexuality. I had reached the place where I felt it was impossible to continue hiding that I was gay and also that it was impossible to come out. That night I came very close to taking my own life until I made a post here on Empty Closets begging for help. I received that help from the wonderful people on EC. In the years since then there have been so many people that have made posts on EC saying almost the same things that I said that night. I have been able to share with them and encourage them that, even when everything seems to be the darkest, there is always a way for things to get better. It's just that when it's so dark we sometimes can't see the way out. So to everyone here on Empty Closets...have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year and never, never forget that as long as there is life there is always hope.
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Thank you for sharing your stories with us. They give hope for the rest of us and show that there is light at the end of a dark tunnel.
     
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    Thank you for continuing to be a strong, compassionate and empathetic presence here on EC, David. Merry Christmad to you and wishing you a good 2022. K x
     
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    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you as well.
     
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    Happy gay day, Christmas and New Year David!:santa:
     
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    I'm so glad you received the encouragement and support you needed back in 2014. You were one of the first to reach out to me after my first post and your kind words really struck me. Thank you for taking the time to reach out to many people like me and for being such a positive light on EC!
     
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    GeoTrekker.....Thanks so much for your post. There are so many of us who have been in similar situations. I'm hoping that as our society gradually becomes more accepting that the number of people who marry and start a family with the wrong person, because they are "supposed to", will decrease. I hope that my grandchildren will be able to chose as their heart leads them and not because it's what they are expected to do. I hope that you and your family have a wonderful New Year!
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Happy Gay Birthday, @quebec! I'm so glad you found the help you needed back then, and that you've gone on to help others as a result. Hope you had a wonderful Christmas and have an excellent New Year! <3
     
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    There is something rather nice about knowing exactly when you accepted the idea that you are gay. It's so long ago for me that I can't remember anymore. I don't recall exactly how old I was and I have no recollection of the date or time when I started coming out. Maybe I didn't appreciate the significance at the time?
     
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    @PatrickUK Perhaps you don't remember the date or time when you accepted that you were gay, but having a more "natural" acceptance of yourself as opposed to a crisis has a lot to be said for it. It's my wish that eventually everyone would simply come to an understanding of their sexuality without any fanfare or crisis at all.
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Maybe I'm new here, but I'd also like to wish you a Happy Birthday. Be with us forever. @quebec
     
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    Happy Gay Birthday! Though we have never interacted, your posts have been inspirational to me. <3
     
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    Happy Gay birthday David. Have we known each other that long?
    Congratulations your are my inspiration
    Adz
     
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