I've been trying for years to get my Dr to refer me to a gynaecologist. I was originally diagnosed by a different Dr with Polycystic Ovarian syndrome (PCOS), and I've been having some problems with it, but my current Dr can't find any evidence that I have the disorder (probably cuz the meds I'm on are working fairly well). I also have absolutely no libido at this point - it's been steadily declining for years, and is now at the point where I'm pretty "dead down there." Whenever I ask about the libido- I'm told it doesn't matter cuz I'm not dating anyone. But no libido means I don't really get attracted to anyone anymore. Plus, what's the point of dating if I can't have sex with anyone anyway- who would even want to date me or stick around while I try and figure out what's going on? Last time I asked to see a gynaecologist, he insisted I get a Pap smear first. A different, female Dr did the Pap, but wasn't able to do it bcuz it was too painful for me. As I was getting ready to leave, I overheard her asking my regular Dr why he wanted me to get a Pap, and kinda calling him out on it and saying it was unnecessary or and I shouldn't be put thru that. And then he told me I didn't need to see a Gyn and didn't even do the referral. That was at least 3 years ago. My therapist is also recommending I get a referral to a women's health specialist or gynaecologist- she thinks there's more serious stuff going on. But I'm going to have to fight my Dr (therapist suggested lying to him lol) I'm pretty angry and upset about this right now, cuz I literally feel like I've lost years of life to this. (I also have mental and physical health problems too that have delayed my ability to date and stuff) So I'm feeling like I've just wasted so much time, that I can't get back. Plus, I'm really worried I'll never be able to get my libido back, or that the problems might be permanent or unfixable. Sorry this is so long, I just really need to vent. Are there any other women who have dealt with no libido? Any suggestions would be helpful.