missing out

There are people doing incredible things at every age and people struggling at every age too. I know it's hard but you shouldn't compare yourself to others too much. You are unique, you are you. It's always good to try to improve ourselves but the only people we should be comparing ourselves to is us from the past. How are you making progress for you, regardless of anyone else? I think you're being a bit harsh on yourself, there is no particular age by which we need to have done particular things. Throughout your 30s you will still be young, so you have plenty of time left to do whatever you want to do.

 

I really relate to this though I’m a bit younger. I know so many from my school days who are now engaged or married, have a house, have kids, can drive (I still can’t lol), have their own clothing brand or small business, are managers, are travelling the world, etc. etc. Even my younger sister is so much more successful than me. I always feel as if it’s me who’s the younger sibling and barely accomplishing anything.

BUT that being said, I totally second what @Cinnamoon says! When I catch myself in a thought rut I think about all the older people I know who are in the same position as me and doing completely fine, going at their own pace. Your late twenties and thirties are still so young, you have so much time ahead of you to try new things and make life more fulfilling. And even the smallest bit of progress matters. During hard times it’s more important to take care of yourself so that the “bigger” things can come later, without sacrificing your well-being.

 

I'm 48. Despite having been married twice and having three kids, I'm still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. There are several areas of my life where I feel like those younger than me surpass me.

 

Yeah i understand how you feel buddy I kinda feel like wasted potential, I don’t really do anything all day when I want to I kinda just lay in bed all day.

 

Same I know so many of us feel that way but I've been finding there is no age limit for finding yourself your passions loved desires hobbies. It comes when it comes !

 

I remember a tumblr post that said something along the lines of : "Who the Hell is doing anything in their 20s anyway ? The 20s are for unlearning and fixing the broken stuff in your life", and I wholly agree.

we tend to overestimate what people are doing because of social media and series/flicks, everybody's always posting something amazing and we're bombarded with it. real life is filled with slow moments and being bored.
we also tend to compare ourselves to our parents or grandparents who lived in a pretty different world. In a way, today the 30s are the new 20s.

societies obsessed with productivity tend to make us believe that you need to be productive or to do a lot of things. and that for you to pick up a craft, if you so desire, is pointless because the best at it began at age 3.

what you actually compare yourself to when judging yourself to be boring is a mix of everyone you've seen and every expectation you feel are upon you, and that mix is filled to the brim and won't show the boring parts in everyone's life.

truth is, I believe, that there actually isn't anything to miss out on and that there is no such thing as too late when it comes to enjoying your own life. do what feels right

 

Same here. I'm glad I at least have a university degree and an occupation.

I'm also single and barely have friends... It didn't work out at university. There were no clubs and societies even before covid. Nobody wanted to attend. I try to join all sorts of groups about hobbies, but I struggle to make friends this way, because people don't even talk or are too different from me - there are a lot of families: middle aged people and their children. I'm at a loss.

 

I did nothing in my 20s. I tried college for a year but it wasn’t really my thing. Im now 30 and have no plans to do anything with my 30s either. Maybe a holiday.

 

It's good you still have dreams at least, keep going =)

 

what are those dreams ? (if you feel comfortable with telling us)

somebody in here may show you a way to still attain or thrive towards them

 

Absolutely.

Sometimes goals might be easier to achieve than you think. Especially when you're still in your 20s

 

Welp, that's not nearly as impossible as you made it sound lmao. Not many ways to go around it whether you've got a degree or not :
Make films. Make films. Make films. By yourself or for people. And watch films. And read about films. etc.. etc...
And if you wanna go pro with it, build an online portfolio then go around and ask to be taken in as a trainee or as an employee.

Learn to use Adobe Premiere and maybe begin with making AMV (anime music videos). Doesn't cost anything, has you working on rhythm and storytelling.
If you wanna go into animation, I hear ClipStudio has become really good (it often goes on sale).

It's hard to get into professionally, but it's also one of those fields that you can get into through so many ways. You're 28 lmao, you're closer to being a baby than to retiring. Go for it.

TL;DR: Make films and build a portfolio. Then use this portfolio to get a job.