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Marrying my Boyfriend

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Confused54, Jul 6, 2020.

  1. Confused54

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    Four years ago this August I came out at age 62 after nearly 35 years of marriage to a woman. This forum was very helpful to me as I went through the coming out process. I was able to vent my confusion and anxiety and receive support from many people who had walked my path before me.

    In April of 2017 I met a wonderful man (B), 20 years younger than me, at a weekly gay men's dinner group. It was his first time at the group dinner as he was also fresh from the closet and in the process of divorcing his wife. B and I hit it off almost immediately and decided just 6 weeks after meeting that we were officially boyfriends. He moved in with me (and my former spouse) that summer.

    In August 2019 we decided to formalize our relationship by getting married. Eventually we settled on late July of this year for the date, chosen because we'd planned a mountaintop wedding and the road wouldn't be snow-free until then. With the covid-19 pandemic our plans had to change, so we're now tieing the knot in our backyard garden with a small group of friends and family members, gay and straight, helping us celebrate.

    Neither B nor I could have imagined four years ago that we'd be happily in a relationship with another man and getting married.

    His family isn't as accepting as mine, unfortunately. He's estranged from his father because I'm not welcome on his property; his deeply religious step-father won't be attending the wedding even though the two of us get along fine. However, his mom, his sister and her son, and probably his step-sisters and their families will be present.

    We're happy to be living our authentic selves, with or without the full support of our families.

    May your journey end up with a happy ending like ours. It sure didn't look that way to us when we started down the path.
     
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    Thank you for sharing your wonderful story. Best wishes for a happy long life together.
     
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    Lovely story and congratulations on your upcoming wedding! :slight_smile:
     
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    Very cool! Congratulations!
     
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    This sort of thing brings tears to my eyes; it seems like an impossible dream ... my own journey is possibly where you were four years ago, maybe with more baggage and a lot of current upset. But this sort of story is just so lovely, it gives me hope!

    And congratulations to the both of you; may your lives be long and rich, and your love for each other grow and deepen with each passing day. Have a virtual hug from me in locked-down Melbourne (Australia).
     
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    It is wonderful to hear your story! Congratulations!
     
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    Thank you for sharing your story. It's truly inspiring. Congratulations. :slight_smile:
     
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    Such a great thing to hear! Thanks for sharing your story and your wonderful experience!
     
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    Gosh, I wish i could like this a million times!!!