Hi it’s really nice to meet this group. My story is very similar to a lot of you guys here, I have so loved reading accounts of other men coming out. I’m married to a fabulous lady and have children. I’m coming out later in life and it was a few years ago that I sat down and explained to my wife about my attraction to other men. This was very difficult for me as I knew it meant I might lose her, my family, friends and I really didn’t know where it would lead. Scared was an understatement. It did feel like a weight was lifted when she said ‘so you’re Gay?’ And I said Yes I’m Gay. The months that followed were Q&A, adjusting and her coming to the realisation the her husband is homosexual. We are still living together, I haven’t had a relationship with a man and nor has my wife, I don’t think, although we have talked about this and she is a free woman who can date men should she desire. I’m still a little nervous of meeting other guys, and would like to know how other men here first started out meeting up with guys. I’m living in a small town so local is a great option. thanks again for listening
Steff.....I usually catch people when they make their first post in the "Welcome Lounge" but I missed you there, so I'll catch back up to you here! *****Hello and a big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent! ) when that becomes necessary! This is a safe community of loving, caring and very supportive people and we will do our best to help you blend into the community. *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out, join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. When I first joined Empty Closets I was in need of a lot of support and encouragement and I found it here…EC is a safe place. I hope that you'll find good things here too! Folks here will talk to you and share...you don't have to be afraid of asking questions...we're glad to have you! Empty Closets is all about making connections and giving LGBTQ folks a voice when they otherwise don't have one in their day-to-day lives. *****I also came out to my wife after years of marriage, kids and now grandkids. We are also staying together, having built a life together I have chosen my family over a boyfriend, etc. I realize that doesn't work for everyone and each person must find their own path. I hope you can find some friends here on EC and support when you need it! Some info on how to navigate EC: When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something" When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum: *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership. *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! If you have any questions at all, you can always send me a Private Message. …..David
I am planning to coming out to my parents, family and children The letter is written thanks to this group The place and time i am still in motion
I'm 68 and have been living as a gay man for several years in a small town about an hour away from my ex-wife and adult children. I just came out to them on January 1 and am still dealing with the fallout. If I can be if any help let me know.
Thank you so much for the offer yes I would love guidance from another man, talking to another guy is really what I need. Thanks
