I'm in my mid thirties, married to a straight man and we have a 5 year old. It's been one week since I told him, "I'm a lesbian and no longer want to be in a heterosexual relationship..." He's taking it really well. He's known my inclination towards women for years, though I've thought for a long time that I'm bi. I've struggled with my lesbian fantasies for years, years. It's come to a point in my life that I know for certain that I want to be with a woman. I want the full package. A deep intimate relationship built on mutual trust, interests, and respect. Our marriage has been in a bit of a struggle for almost 3 years. Having a child changed me. I realized I needed to get myself help and have since talked with two different therapists. The therapist I'm talking to now has been amazing. She's really validated me and helped me realize that the frustrations I am having in my marriage weren't all about the things my husband was doing wrong, but about the fact that he was wrong for me. That ultimately I want something, someone, else. That no matter what he did or didn't do he could never be a woman. I would never find fulfillment with him. Since telling him I feel this huge relief, but also a lot of guilt and grief. We're talking about divorce, probably after the new year. I feel guilty for everything I'm putting him through and the fact that I'm going to let go of all the privileges a two parent, heterosexual, marriage offers not just me, but my child. YET, when I start to feel guilty about everything I think of how relieved I feel about the fact that I don't have to have sex with a man, with the only man I have ever had sex with in my life. The only person I've ever had sex with. That relief tells me that I'm doing the right thing and that letting him go, no matter how disruptive now, will eventually be better for both of us. He deserves to be with someone who is physically and sexually attracted to him and so do I. I'm new here at EC as a member, though I've come to this forum many times over the past few years to read a few posts. Reading stories of others like me has helped me accept who I truly am. There's still a long journey ahead. I hope it brings a better, more authentic me. Any tips from other lesbians who divorced straight men with children? Any and all advice, resources, and just overall support as I slowly join the LGBTQ community is welcomed.