is she gone for good? :(

Well maybe she is thinking about what to say.

 

You cant date because you are far apart?

 

I still don't understand you; you wanted to be with her, and she wanted to be close to someone, therefore, you guys split up? Why would her wanting to be close to the person in her relationship mess this up? Isn't that what a relationship is

 

She's talking about long distance. Her ex wanted to be with someone close, as in someone closer to where she lives, I believe.

 

You said that soon you two would have to move on. She did. I would not stay in a relationship any longer than was necessary with someone who made such a statement. The time on that would be to end it myself before that person hurt me further. I don't mean to sound so harsh but why would I invest myself in a relationship that is doomed. Under the circumstances I would not reply to your emails either. What would be the point?

If the relationship was online only I would bail even faster because I would feel less vested in the first place.

 

In the bold: It is hard to know what someone wants you to say. Sometimes their meaning is exactly the opposite. People do not always give off the proper signals for us to read.

2: Telling someone that a relationship would eventually end can hurt. If she treated you badly to begin with I can understand why you said what you did. I give you credit for making such a response to her. If you were hurt first and did not respond you become a doormat to be hurt and you did not. You protected yourself. Thumbs up on that.

3. If you tried to make it work and she left you have lost nothing and again your response was good. I would not worry if she was coming back. I would be searching for the heart that will join with yours to form true love. Again if this is the case your response was correct and you deserve better.

4. If you are looking for a committed relationship and she is not seeking the same you are better off as it stands and I would suggest you forget the emails to her and move on. Unless you think you can change her and most of the time changing someone is futile.

Hugs dear and good luck in life.

You were not rude dear you were speaking your mind and that is how we create dialogue and deeper understanding.

 

Under the circumstances you explain I believe now you did the proper thing.

When a relationship ends there is lingering pain. It can take much time to heal. It seems like you are in the process of healing your wounds. It seems obvious she used your email as a way out and can feel justified in saying you broke up. It never is fair and I am so sorry you are hurting. Words are the only salve we have and so I say I hope you are able to see she was not interested in committing to you and you want and deserve someone who does want to be your partner. Hugs

 

Our heart sometimes stands in the way of what we know. Our heart is screaming our love and affection so loudly we can't seem to see the truth.
She said she had feelings to protect her heart from speaking her truth. Her untruth damaged your heart and wounded you, it seems deeply. I am sad for this. I wish it could be different.

You will grow from this experience though. It is a painful lesson.

Tears are cleansing and so healing. They help us to move from what was to what is and what will be.

Of course you can't help feeling the pain. Feelings are not right or wrong they just are. It may be painful for a long time it may be painful for only a few hours more. The more we open our hearts the more apt we are to be wounded. The more we open our hearts the more apt we are to find true love. We risk the wounds to find the wonder of a life of love. If you continue to put yourself at risk you will in the end find the relationship you seek. Trust that this is true.

I see you have your mood set to Crushed. I would change that to Better. Hugs

 

I am sorry you have been torn apart. As community I feel your pain. The sadness can seem unbearable at times, but we are stronger than we think. She is not worth crying over but you will still have tears and they are better out on your cheeks than buried inside where your heart is. By are tears we are washed and healed. Two days of crying may not be enough. They will stop and you will be better for it. Hugs for the tears I hope you find the spot of healing quickly.

 

It's okay to question. You will find out who you are. We do find who we are and once we know it's up to us to be strong enough to accept it. It doesn't matter what it is. If you are bisexual, lesbian, straight, transgender or whatever mix. We have to accept ourselves and be proud of who and what we are. Sometimes that is the difficult part. You can do that i am certain. :icon_bigg

 

I am happy you changed your name. Wounds do heal. and flying alone temporarily is okay.
When I read your words about Scarlett in conjunction with your feelings. I'd say you weren't straight as well. I would even question if you are bi as well. You may well be lesbian. It is for you to find yourself and the truth of who you are.

A long time ago I tried to date a couple of guys. Things went poorly and I realized quickly I was only dating males to try and fit it. I am glad the experiment ended early. I know after maybe ten bad dates that I was lesbian. I was not even sure what lesbian was in that day and age but i certainly knew I did not want to date them or be kissed by them.