Is my boyfriend gay?

Hi! I skipped reading the previous comments to avoid being biased. Here's what I think: I myself am bi, I've known this for a while and I'm not big into sports or fashion (don't get me wrong, I like looking good) but if he says he's not gay, then he's not gay. I have to admit that while I do initiate sex with my current girlfriend, it's not too often and I decline sex sometimes whether is being tired from work or not in the mood. The "rule" that men are always horny and if they're not they have their sexuality questioned is disturbing. Talk to him. Me and my gf did.

---------- Post added 5th Nov 2012 at 06:35 PM ----------

I read this on the way up from my post hahaha if you want my advice, here it is: maybe it's personal preference. Maybe he's into tits more than down south. If I can be honest (and blunt) I'd love to eat my gf out but she's self conscious about it for some reason. It is what it is.

 

He may be bisexual or just a straight metrosexual.

I do think the bottom line is you have a gut feeling, and that feeling is causing you not to trust him. You need to figure out whether or not your lack of trust has any place in a relationship heading toward marriage.

 

I would say no. For the reason that I am the complete opposite of your boyfriend minus the sports and I am gay as fuck. My voice is deep and booming, everyone I meet calls me a beast or some other kind of masculine nick name, all my friends are dudes. You will only find gay porn on my computer absolutely no straight porn. I never webcam with girls.

I really really think or almost know your boyfriend is straight. I know plenty of fem dudes that only get along with girls...etc and are straight as fuck.

Take it from a gay dude, if there is no GAY PORN on his compute he is not gay. I am closeted but certainly wouldn't go as far as looking up hetero porn just to hide it. As well the voice thing is absolutely the worse indicator, if we went by voice, I think a lot of dudes would be gay, and a lot of gay dudes would be straight.

I am constantly told how masculine I am, yet people still think I am gay, why because I don't date girls. Period. The thought never crossed my mind, and the fact your boyfriend is 29 and has only dated girls in the past should be reason enough to say he is straight. Closeted gay guys for the most part avoid women, they are the most awkward thing to be around.

 

In a word, no. He's just effeminate.

 

I can identify with your story..please read mine and give me your opinion..kxqmate

---------- Post added 28th Jun 2013 at 12:53 PM ----------

I think I have the same problem..Please read my post and let me know what you think..

 

He has straight porn, Flirts with women and has told you he's not gay. They way he acts doesn't make him gay that's stereotyping. I'm not feminine at all but I still gay. If you asked him but don't believe him maybe you should ask why you don't trust his answer maybe you don't want to be with him and your seeing these signs because him being gay would be an easier way for you to end it with him.

 

You and my cousin both. She is currently going out with a guy who his BEST friend is gay and flaming. Her bf himself isn't the most masculine person on earth and he gets hit on by a lot of men himself.
He is very refined and has a great sense of fashion which is stereotypical but can be misleading.

However, not for a second have I ever thought him gay. Just a guy comfortable in his skin.
Look, even many Gay Porn models are STRAIGHT! They eat ass, kiss and plow like a champ on screen but at the end of the day go home to their girlfriends and it's no biggy!

The real question is, if your bf came out to you, would YOU still love him just the same. Because if that's the case, sexuality doesn't matter. When 2 people love each other, they just love each other and nothing else matters.

 

This thread is over a year old and the woman in the OP never came back to post comments.

My thoughts:
- he's a straight metro guy
- he's bisexual
- it's more complicated

The part that there is some sexual difficulty is what concerns me, and their sexual repertoire has changed.

There are also other questions. Could the straight porn have been planted? What was the transgression that got a guy at work fired? That's fairly hard to do, depending on what was done or said. And, lastly, what was in it for her woman friend to tell her that she suspected this in the boyfriend? We need to know about that friend. Was she not in a relationship and feeling envious that the OP might have had a great guy or was she genuinely concerned? I always find it interesting when a disinterested 3rd party does the "outing."

Alex - I don't believe in gay for pay. I think they are bisexual. I'm not an expert in porn, but can watch short segments, since I find it repetitive and boring in short order. I do like reading about their biographies. How does one from BFE, Kansas learn that they are 5 star material for porn and get to the big city to do that? At any rate, most of the big stars who even minimally dabbled in gay porn and then got into straight porn are often known to be bisexual in that entertainment community.

And, yes, there are very feminine straight men and very masculine gay men. This was an interesting OP.