Is My Best Friend Secretly Bi/Bi-Curious or Just Overly Affectionate?

Doesn't sound gay to me.....this is normal for most female friendships.

Even though I am gay, I say this stuff to a friend I have ZERO romantic or sexual interest in. I love her like a sister so the thought of doing anything gay with her just seems gross to me. And she's not attracted to women, but says the same stuff back. It's a way to show our strong platonic bond.

 

To me it appears that she's displaying more characteristics of trust and unconditional love more than anything. It's easier for females to display affectionate behavior towards one another because of the way they are socialized. I suppose this might just complicate detecting female queerness in the general pool of women overall speaking.

But I think the most important thing here to learn for all members of LGBT is to stop chasing straight people, because they aren't chasing us. The moment and instant that a person identifies as straight, whether or not he or she is being completely genuine, is not up to us to decide. We must immediately forget about forming other types of relationships with them that are not strictly platonic friendships. Doubting, questioning, fantasizing and even hoping for something more only jeopardizes the friendship itself. So with this in theory, assuming you mean well and are truly only confused about the nature of things, this very thing right here is subject to ruin your friendship.

Stay in the clear.

 

The rule of thumb for identifying crushes is to see if you're being treated differently. If she's normally affectionate, verbally expressive, complimentary, playful with other friends then it's not likely a crush. That's just her being unabashedly her.

I have friends, both straight and not straight, who are like your friend. I can see why her behavior makes you question though. It's also possible that she isn't straight, but there's no sense in worrying over what ifs. Accept her as she persents herself, not who she could, maybe, might be. If she expresses romantic interest or comes out, then cross that bridge when you get there. Not before.

I get the feeling, regardless of her sexuality, this woman loves and respects you. So even if she has feelings, even if you can't return those hypothetical feeling, you may still have a life long buddy.

If you're feeling uncomfortable by all the affection or attention, it's always okay, even healthy, to get some space or set up boudaries.

 

She doesn't sound like she's crushing on you or that she is queer.
It could be that she's just really comfortable around you, and she senses that you are comfortable around her too. It sounds like the two of you share a very special bond, and that is to be treasured forever. Seeing as she's like this with other females too, just reiterates the fact that she's naturally a very touchy-feely person, who forms close bonds with other females (and you, obviously). My newest friend and I have gotten really close, really fast and I was wondering the same thing about her. She's in her late 40s, never married, currently single, and she's also very touchy-feely with me. We don't go a day without talking at least once, and I think our friendship has really blossomed in such a short time.

She's an awesome person, and she knows so much about me already. I never came out to her in person, but she's on my Facebook, so she can see my interested in at any time. So I think unless she's a hermit, she knows by now. She's also kissed my cheek one time after we hugged. We've never cuddled or held hands though, but she feels like a second sister to me, and she knows how much I value our friendship. She's low maintenance too, which I love.

So I don't think any of the things you've mentioned, point to her liking you "that way".