I’m 67 and consider myself bisexual. I have had several m2m experiences and enjoyed them very much. I have always looked for a man who shares my attraction who would be willing to be friends but also friends with benefits. Someone to share casual sex with without anyone else knowing. is it wrong to think that someday I could find someone to fill that void. I’m single by the way, but have a few women who I enjoy being with and on occasion we enjoy sex together. This is rare and most of my orgasms come from masturbation while watching gay porn.
Bob.....If you have a situation with two consenting adults who want to have sex with each other I don't see how there is a problem. Of course many religions have problems with that kind of thing, but again if the people involved are both ok with it then there doesn't seem to be a problem. It would be wise to talk about it before hand and be sure that both people are on board with it, but if you've done that then there shouldn't be any problem. .....David
Thank you David. I’ve had people tell me there is no such thing as bisexual. I feel if I’m not hurting anyone, and it is something I want, and if both individuals want it, then why not. It is a great way to feel good mentally and physically.
It sounds like you're wanting positive reinforcement. Obviously like David mentions, there are those who believe any sex outside of marriage is very wrong and immoral. I'm not one of those people, so I think as long as you're not in an exclusive relationship, and it's something you desire, then it's no big deal. But that's just how I feel. I'm not aware of this theory. But I am aware that for some unknown reason there are a lot of people who desperately want you to be whatever they are, even to the point of denying the existence of something. If you enjoy both men and women, then what are you if bisexuality isn't real? Bisexual is a brood term/orientation that includes more variables that just "one or the other."
Thank you wanderlust. I once had a sexual relationship with a guy who said he was gay. He had beautiful sex and he told me that there was no such thing as bisexual. Since you said that he wanted me to be like he was and that’s why he didn’t accept the fact that I love women and men. It was nice to hear that and I thank you. I have wants and desires and I don’t need anyone telling me they are wrong. I really appreciate your very kind words.
Sounds very common and healthy to me. One trouble area is you never know if your sex friend will keep it confidential. Do you have the same expectation of the women? Ideally you can be open about all of it to get even more of that health benefit. Being authentically you w/o worry if neighbors see the same, or a different guy, show up each week. It's no big deal, maybe one of them is into you too! Good luck on this adventure!
About sexual liaisons, a very good therapist I had mentioned three things for them to be o.k. in the broader sense. The first one is that if one person is an adult, the other must also be above the age of consent. The second one is that it's consensual and not coerced. I don't remember the third one and I wish I did, because the therapist had a lot of useful information. Could it have been about legality, level of danger, violence, or putting someone into psychological distress? I am only guessing. If someone knows these 3 things and the 3rd thing, your sharing them would be helpful to me and the others here. The religious part comes into play. Sex and sexuality are basic human needs so many religious people address these needs privately and it does not make them bad people. I'm sure some clerics and congregation members might shake a finger at them and make them think they're bad people. If you feel you're a good person and not in denial about that, that's all that matters. When it comes to bisexuality, it almost seems like there is more friction between gays or lesbians and bisexuals. Heterosexuals seem to acknowledge this orientation a little more readily from what I've seen. I've heard things like 'they like both,' 'they go both ways,' and similar comments. Traditional politics are hard enough. I don't care to get involved in sexual politics.
[QUOTE="mnguy, Good luck on this adventure![/QUOTE] thank you mnguy. It is in fact an adventure. One I hope has an exciting outcome. No pun intended.
You said. “is it wrong to think that someday I could find someone to fill that void. I’m single by the way, but have a few women who I enjoy being with and on occasion we enjoy sex together. This is rare and most of my orgasms come from masturbation while watching gay porn.” How could it be wrong? Curious why you feel guilty. Have any thoughts about that?
I think I feel guilty because I can’t bring myself to say that to anyone in person. I love being intimate and being intimate friends isn’t based on gender.
There's nothing wrong in my opinion with having casual sex. Just make sure the person you do it with understands that. And the person isn't looking for a more serious, or intimate type of relationship beyond that. Because if the two of you aren't on the same page in that regard, it can lead to issues.
