Is it a mistake

I think it’s fine to send a friend request. Some people are very friendly and quick to request friendship online as soon as they meet someone and others wait until they are good friends first... I don’t think it will be telling of anything or seem weird go for it! If the impulse is there then follow through or you will always wonder

 

A friend request? Hun, you have to start somewhere.
If you do, and it doesn't work out for you, then it wasn't meant to be.
If you don't, you can never know if it was meant to be, but you're no further ahead.
So this is one of those instances where you ask yourself "what have I got to lose?"

 

I would do it. It's not weird because you know her. People accept requests from strangers all the time.

 

@Beebee80 You are overthinking it. It is just a friend request. You aren't telling her you have a crush on her, that's just you in your head.

 

Your hesitation just shows you are a person who considers other people's feelings. It's a good sign. If she is the same way (which we hope) she will understand how and out-of-the-blue friend request isn't creepy, it's just a first step.

FWIW I have done this many times and nobody has been offended. Now, I didn't hook up with many (hardly any!) of the recipients, but we're pals.

 

Go for it! What do you have to lose?

Is she a lesbian?

 

It has only been a couple days, correct? I wouldn't jump to conclusions. It may seem weird but I've had people accept requests after a week or two even. You never really know what people are thinking or if they're just busy/forgot/etc. Either way, it's not a big deal, I would probably just act normal around her like nothing happened. Be proud for getting out of your comfort zone a little My therapist is trying to get me to do the same when it comes to expanding my social circle. It used to be hard for me cuz I had terrible anxiety, now I've gotten better about that and it's more just difficult because I move around so much.

 

Sorry to hear that but what’s most important is you are speaking your truth. You were interested in reaching out and you did it! You need to celebrate that moment no matter what the result was. Keep doing you and the right people will match up with you and help expand your circle.

 

I'm the same way, I don't have anything in common with the people my husband associates with. I would love to find friends in the LBGTQ community but I don't really know how to go about that without coming out to a lot more people, which I don't want to do right now. Just today I found out an old friend from my hometown came out. I always suspected she might be, but we weren't that close, and with me being married I can't exactly message her and say "hey, you're gay? I am too!" lol. That's why this website is a lifesaver.

 

@Beebee80 ugh. My husband is in the military, so it's a very traditional lifestyle generally. Most of the women I meet are only interested in having kids and being housewives. I just want a career and to be independent. Sometimes I really wonder how I ended up here lol.