Is he gay or just...different?

DEFINITELY COME OUT TO HIM!!!!

It's like he's been bashing you with a gigantic "I'M GAY AND I LIKE YOU!" cluebat, and you haven't even responded to it.

 

I agree with Csipio that you have really got to let him know that you are cool with his foot thing. Communication is awesome. Poor guy must be soooo confused.

^^Also this.

I think you should go ahead and figure out how much money you can reasonably spend on a wardrobe update right now. Then, let him know that, and have him come over to your place to assess what you currently have, so that he will know what is most needed. Perhaps you could try some things on for him. Especially shoes. That could be fun.

While he is looking at your shoes, which you can expect to be a priority item, come out to him. Maybe make a pass at him. See how that goes.

You also might want to consider whether you could part with a pair of your shoes. He might like to take a pair home with him.

Or you could blatantly offer him your feet. Like, have him sit down and stick your feet in his lap, as if this were a totally normal thing to do. Keep making normal conversation. If you get an erection while he's rubbing your feet (which he will), don't hide it this time! For that matter, flat out tell him that you like it.

You do have condoms, right? Just in case. Because something like this could get intense really suddenly. I'm not saying it will necessarily go to the condom place, but better safe than sorry, in a big way, you know?

I just can't wait until this guy realizes that you are gay, and into him, and you don't mind his foot thing and are willing to play. He's going to be so, so happy...

If you guys end up in a serious thing, I want you to show him this thread someday. Please?


If, for some reason, none of that works out, and you get back to the point where it seems like he is embarrassed and avoiding you, I think you should lay it all out on the table. You are gay, you like him, you will indulge his apparent foot fetish, if he's interested in dating you, please let you know. Even if he's not interested in you, you'd still like to be friends, and you hope he can stop feeling embarrassed about his interest in your feet now, because it doesn't bother you, and you aren't going to tell anyone.

It's not like he can out you without risking exposure himself. I mean, sure, he would know you are gay, but you know he likes to lay there and rub guys' feet on his face. He's not gonna risk you telling people about that by spreading rumors about you. So, just tell him.

Right now, he feels vulnerable and unsure about you. He thinks you are probably straight, and he doesn't know what you really think of him about the whole foot fetish thing. Have mercy on the poor guy, and be explicit that you are into him, and you would like to look forward to future foot massages, and whatever else he'd like to do to your feet.

 

Couldn't have put it any better.

 

Oh, and you aren't out to your family, either. Hmm.

Well, still make sure to get the point across somehow. Such as telling him explicitly, if necessary.

 

Where in Europe is he from? Or is he from Europe? What am I saying? Europe? Eheraluwpe?eahjeklejewm.//...e..

 

i have not read the entire post but if someone puts your feet on their face, its pretty safe to say they are into some level of alternative lifestyle situations so just let him know you're gay and ask if that changes anything but you wanted to be open. see what happens and go from there.

 

Well, I've spent some time in Europe and they really don't shy away from the idea of open sexuality. Probably a cliché, but it's generally pretty true. They also form really strong friendships. I can't say for sure about Belgians because I haven't been to Belgium, but, in general, they're much more free wheelin' about things. In any case, I don't think they smell each others' feet. I think he likes you! Go get him!

 

So, he's back from the Grand Canyon today, right? Did you set a date for the shopping trip?

 

Yes Belgians are fun people, I have some friends coming over to the US from there for awhile.

But seriously you should come out to him asap! He has to keep it a secret no matter what because you know about his fetish and if it grts out that he had you on his face for half an hour that will be tough to live down. So yeah just tell him already, if he's a bit shy about being gay then it'll also give him time to potentially either be more receptive when you tell him you like him or he'll come out and ask you himself.

 

So....unless he's still looking for Peter Brady in the Grand Canyon, I assume you've heard back from that message?

 

This thread is just so... addicting. I hope everything works out for you!

 

Is anything happening with this??? Are you going shopping this weekend?

 

When did you last try him? Maybe you should try again.

 

Well, you could send him a message, trying to confirm plans... one of the days you told him you were free was yesterday.

Maybe you could call him. It could be he doesn't have texting because he prefers phone calls.