Greetings folks! I moved into my own place yesterday, I'm exhausted, my back hurts, but it went well. My soon to be ex needs to learn that it isn't kind to kick a man when he's down, she was quite relentless until the very end, oh well, that's over until the divorce court hearing in May. I read somewhere that the definition of alimony (or child support-whatever) is when two people make a mistake but only one of them pays for it. Makes sense to me! I am slowly getting the place settled, I have reverted to what life was like before marriage, almost exactly 20 years ago. What I am enjoying most is doing things precisely as I wish them to be, no endless disagreements or negotiating how things should be arranged, mounted, stored etc; or criticism if I do something she doesn't agree with. My time is now my own, my place is my own, and I am answering to no one. God how I have missed this! I bought some really sexy underwear which I would not have dared to wear while being with the family. So I am wearing them now and I feel great :icon_bigg I mentioned time, yeah, I really feel as if I'm in a different dimension of time, I am suddenly much more relaxed living and doing things in my own "time zone" (although I have a slightly disturbing tendency to be talking to myself at times...) I have read other posts here about this major step, all I can say is that, so far, it's a major positive step! (!)
I know exactly what yo mean. When I was single life was so easy. I kept the place the way I wanted, cleaning behind myself as I lived so I NEVER had to have a cleaning day. No bricabrack to dust, ate over the sink, wiped down the bathroom when I used it. Even folded dirty laundry so there was no mess to worry about. I wasn't 't a clean freak, I just hated giving up a day to clean. Then I got married... Wife was a mess maker. Then came two kids who were mess makers, then came dusty bricabrack everywhere. Life became endless cleaning. I claimed the broke me but I just gave up. I cannot wait to be on my own again. You lucky dog! Congrats!!!
Congratulations on acquiring your new found independence, as the quote goes "Yesterday is History, Tomorrow a Mystery, Today is a Gift, That's why it's called the Present" Having your own place has it's many advantages, being your own boss is one of them, let the adventure begin
I also know exactly how you feel. My ex moved out last may, and while it was strange having the entire house to my self after 15 years of being married, it didn't take me long to adjust to it being just me and the cat.
Great news! I'm so excited for you, greatwhale! Here's to you, your new place and a future filled with happiness!
Best of luck as you start this new chapter! One thing I really like about living alone is just the freedom: I can do what I want, when I want, with no problems. Although I guess a lot depends on whom you live with. One roommate was very difficult. That roommate owned the house, and had more rules (and worse vengeance it sometimes seemed) than an Old Testament God. (World War III nearly erupted off a small spot drip on the stove once!) Tom Snyder (once a US talk show host) commented about talking to himself when he'd be out walking. His line: it's not talking to yourself that's a problem. It's when you get in an argument with yourself and lose that you have a problem! That said, I talk to myself a fair amount. Some days, it's the only hope I have for intelligent conversation. ---------- Post added 28th Apr 2013 at 10:45 PM ---------- Great thought!
Thank you dear friends, I truly appreciate your kind comments and congrats...now if only my back would stop hurting from all the heavy lifting (I know, I know, you're supposed to lift with the legs and not the back....)
Glad to hear you make the big step of moving into your own place now... A great whale tale in the making. Can't wait to read the next chapters in your new life. Robert
Yes, but it doesn't seem to work that way. At least, when I'm moving, I start with the idea that I should do things "the right way" (and more than treating my back right). But it reaches a point where it's just "get this hellish project over with ASAP!"