Well, long story short, I repressed a lot of things that happened in childhood and repressed feelings for a long time. I've been married a good while, and told my wife how I feel a year ago. She's been great about it and I've been with a man. I probably overall get greater pleasure when thinking about the same sex and performing certain acts. The problem is that I still genuinely really, really love my wife, she's my soulmate. But I am not as frequently attracted to the opposite sex and as I've allowed myself to be honest internally, my orgasms with her and when thinking of women have decreased. So you'd just figure I must be gay, right? But the thing is, I only like genital contact with other men. I really don't want them to kiss me or do other stuff, just oral and anal, then I'm done. With women, I want to do everything. I also strongly feel that I could not ever emotionally connect with a man as I do with my wife. I also only think about women sexually in public/social situations. I notice the exceptional breasts/ass/etc and still feel a tingle down there, though not quite as often as I used to. And I NEVER think of men I know personally in a sexual way, ever. Please, share thoughts, because I'm willing to say I'm probably bi but is that accurate? Am I bi 60/40 gay/straight? I dont know and i hate to not know.