Edit: I meant for the thread title to be: If you're out, do you find that people in the real world define you by your sexuality? I went to a large high school in a very homophobic area of the Deep South, and my high school was large enough so that most people did not know the majority of the students at my high school. There was just one openly gay male student at my high school, and everyone knew who he was and that he was/is gay. I won't say the real name of this male student for privacy issues, but I will call this gay male student Steve. Whenever any student said anything about Steve, it was always something relating to the fact that he is gay. Everyone at my high school defined him by his sexuality. I think that's somewhat common in how gay people are treated. My screen name is I am straight, but I only made such a screen name because of the topic of the whole website. If everyone defined me by being straight in real life, I would find it annoying. I am far more than my sexuality. If you're out of the closet, do you find that a lot of people define you by your sexuality? If so, is that annoying?