1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

I think I'm straight, but I'm not sure. I might be bi.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Jsmith1996, May 13, 2016.

  1. Jsmith1996

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 13, 2016
    Messages:
    8
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Georgia
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Straight
    First off let me just say that I have talked to my group of friends, which is partly bi and some straight, about this already. They said I was probably straight, based on what I told them and because they know me well. I've know them for at least 5 years each.

    Reasons I think I'm straight:
    - I DEFINITELY am sexually and romantically attracted to women.
    - I have kissed a girl, a girl groped my penis twice thinking it was my leg one time (which felt great), and I've squeezed my girlfriend's butt one time, but not really much experience with women sexually.
    - I see a woman with large breasts and/or butt and it turns me on, no matter how ugly the rest of her is, although I do have high standards.
    -Straight porn definitely turns me on.

    Reasons I might not be so straight:
    - Sometimes I see a hot guy(and even straight guys can recognize hot guys too) and it might turn me on a little, not as much as a female would, but sometimes it might...let me be very clear by saying a LITTLE.
    - I have never been in a relationship with a guy for fear of what others will think and plus I haven't really wanted to(I live in a very religious and conservation area in Georgia and I am a Christian, so this would be heavily frowned upon), but maybe it's time to open my eyes and realize that I might be bi. I don't want to be bi, but if I am then I want to know.
    - I have seen some gay porn before, and some of it turns me on a bit, but straight is still better.

    I just want more people's opinions. Feel free to ask anymore questions that may be helpful in your analysis of this info.

    P.S. If I were bi then my parents would disown me so maybe I have just known this for a while, but am afraid because it's against the people around me and my religion.

    P.P.S. I know for sure that I love women more than men no matter what. I think I'm straight and so do my friends. I want to be straight, but I just want to be sure.

    P.P.P.S. If I do like a guy, it has never been sexually, and rarely is it ever romantically.
     
  2. Katchoo

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 23, 2016
    Messages:
    1,661
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Georgia, USA
    Hey, fellow Georgia person! Glad to know I'm not the only one here. Lol, your attractions sound just like mine except you're a dude. :slight_smile: So, you are much straighter than me, lol. :grin: I don't think it is important to rush for a label, but, bisexuality is kind of a spectrum. Bi does NOT mean 50/50. Have you considered the word heteroflexible?
     
  3. Jsmith1996

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 13, 2016
    Messages:
    8
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Georgia
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Straight
    Thanks, but I really feel like I am straight, not heteroflexible...I mean, it is only on occasion that I even feel romantically attracted to another males, and even this is VERY rare. this has only happened once ever in my life.
    Thanks for the opinion tho, it really helped, but I don't want to give myself a label unless I'm sure, because I've never been sexually aroused by a guy, but I have had romantic fantasies about one before. We didn't even kiss, it was more like just going out on a date.
    I couldn't want to have sexual relations with another man, nor would I ever feel right in doing it. It just isn't who I am.
     
  4. Magical Me

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 21, 2014
    Messages:
    1,456
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Tx
    Everyone feels attraction to the same gender every once in a while, straight or not. IMO it doesn't change your sexuality.
    Like if I was a straight male and I said, "Oh hey that guy's kinda nice, I think I might be ever so slightly attracted to him." That doesn't affect my sexuality, I'm just pointing out that someone is nice, and that I'm drawn to them.

    If you want to label yourself straight, go for it.
     
    #4 Magical Me, May 14, 2016
    Last edited: May 14, 2016
  5. BrookeVL

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 1, 2016
    Messages:
    3,765
    Likes Received:
    139
    Location:
    Pennsylvania
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    You sound pretty straight to me.

    When I see a good looking girl or a good looking guy, I get the same feeling either way. I want to plant a big wet one on their lips. I want to tap that. I can see myself having a successful romantic/sexual relationship with either sex. When I think about finally settling down for the long haul, I can picture doing it with a man or a woman. My preferences change all the time though, but I never go fully one way or the other. It's more complicated than that, but that's a basic rundown of what bisexuality is to me.

    You on the other hand only seem to maybe be a little curious, but enough to ever actually be with a guy.
     
  6. AlmostBlue

    AlmostBlue Guest

    Joined:
    Jun 11, 2014
    Messages:
    588
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    I have to say there seems like a homosexual side to you from what you've written. If there were none whatsoever, then I don't think you will be questioning. Sexuality is a spectrum, so it seems that you are predominantly attracted to women for now though. However, you've had a romantic crush on a guy and have felt slightly aroused by gay porn, which could indicate that if you let yourself explore your sexuality more freely, then you may become more comfortable with your homosexual desires. At the moment, you are probably trying to suppress it as much as you can. Even if you are bisexual, it doesn't mean you have to automatically tell your parents. You have other friends who are bi/gay right? Your world will not end if you have homosexual feelings once in a while. If you can indulge in it and appreciate those feelings, you're life would be even more meaningful I think.
     
  7. Jsmith1996

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 13, 2016
    Messages:
    8
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Georgia
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Straight

    This seems the most like me, honestly. I am definitely attracted to women. I would never be comfortable engaging sexually with another man(regardless of who it is), whereas with women I have a very strong desire to do so. Therefore, I must be straight.

    Thanks for all the help guys. Really means a lot. I just needed an objective opinion on this.
     
    #7 Jsmith1996, May 14, 2016
    Last edited: May 14, 2016
  8. Lance

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jul 26, 2012
    Messages:
    3,109
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Male
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I would say you are pretty much straight based on that information. Try not to worry about things too much. :wink:
     
  9. Aof

    Aof
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Nov 21, 2015
    Messages:
    68
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Ohio
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    nobody can really tell you if you are straight or bi, only you that know who you really are. You have to let down all of the wall that you build and get to know the real you.

    It is like you standing on the land. You see people running into the water in front of you. You see some of them are having fun, some goes into the deeper part of the water. You keep wonder what it is like to be in the water. You ask people around you. They judged you. They give you advise of what it is like. They are against your idea or agree with your idea but you will never know. You will keep wondering for the rest of your life of what it is like to be in that water. You will know once you get in the water. How much you want to go in, that is up to you. You can just touch it with your finger or go in until water hits your knees, or go deeper than that. It is up to you since you are the only one that know your limit.
     
    #9 Aof, May 14, 2016
    Last edited: May 14, 2016
  10. Nikebox4

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 14, 2016
    Messages:
    12
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    sheffield
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Questioning
    The gap between straight and bi makes it hard to put a proper label on yourself im in the same situation, maybe finding some gay friends or trying a random hook up mite open up your head abit more and give your a proper answer. You could be bi but your fear of other peoples opinions may be keeping a lid on your bisexuality. Put yourself in a situation were you no your not going to be judged and youl probs figure it out yourself. Be it your literally staight but the odd male has the power to make you think otherwise or you may find youl let go and realise your properly bi.
     
  11. AlmostBlue

    AlmostBlue Guest

    Joined:
    Jun 11, 2014
    Messages:
    588
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Sexual orientation is in the end about your identity. It's what you choose to label yourself. If you feel straight is the right label for you, then go for it! But if you are talking about identifying sexual attractions, then that's another thing.