I recently bought a t shirt from Anthropologie that says “femme” across the top. Honestly I'm obsessed with it because straight people don't think it means anything, or that it's just French for "woman", or some feminist stance or whatever, but given that gay people know it's a lesbian term to describe a feminine lesbian, it's the perfect way to go about my day being visible to other gay people while flying under straight people's radar. Might be wishful thinking, but I do feel like I've gotten a few looks from other girls in that shirt. Anyway, I took a selfie of me in the shirt the other day and put it on my Instagram story, and I know not everyone who's seen my story will know what I'm trying to say with that shirt, but some will, particularly my gay friends who I haven't "officially" come out to but I still know that they know. I just wanted to share because I'm proud of myself right now. Even if no one knows that I mean "femme" in the gay way, I know that I was still willing to put myself out there, and one step closer to being out to everyone.