I am thinking about telling my sister about my sexuality. I am married to a man with children and the only place I have talked about my sexual orientation questioning is to my therapist, this group and one other private online group. This would be the first person I tell in my everyday open world. I have never been with a woman or told the women I had crushes in that I liked them and I think i was hesitating to tell anyone since it often feels like it is all in my head. I feel like she would be a safe person to let these thoughts out with and I don’t anticipate her having a negative reaction but I’m still nervous to do it. We live in different states so it would be over the phone and I’m just waiting for the right moment when we chat. Hoping I’m brave enough to do it.
Yeah I’m thinking about doing the same thing but with a friend who lives in a different state. I just sent her a text this morning to call me when she has a minute to chat. I think that’s a great idea, to have someone that you can talk even if she can’t relate. I think it will go well, sending positive energy your way *Big Hugs*
That’s great for you as well! The only other person I would consider is my best friend from high school but she’s also my neighbor and very much a part of my social circle so thinking my sister is a better start. Good luck to you as well!
@Elle993 just got off the phone with my friend she was very accepting like I knew she would be. Such a relief to talk to her she’s always brought me comfort. Thank you for the encouragement
I spoke with my sister about an hour ago and I did it!! It went well and she was very supportive. I just said there is some confusion and questioning about my sexual orientation and she knows that I am having challenges with my marriage. Now that I told her I am having mixed feelings... it feels good to finally say it to someone I personally know and she was supportive but something still feels scary about it. Something she said made me think that she might think I am attracted to women because something emotional is missing from my relationship with my husband... but I told her that this is not the first time I have questioned this and it was also before getting married. Either way it’s movement and I probably wouldn’t be in this place in my life without the community here to help me along the way
Yay! A supporting sibling is.. well it doesn't get much better. Glad she's got your back. Good luck with, well, whatever comes next.
Awesome so glad you were able to talk to and feel that relief. And that scary feeling you got after telling her I felt the same way.
Glad I’m not alone. As soon as I said it to her the emotion hit me and I could feel the tears forming ... tears of just saying it and the release of those words and I think she could sense that if I said more I would cry and so she just kept rambling with all these supportive words until I could start talking again. Whew. But yeah then I had that funny feeling in my tummy. I talk to her almost everyday even if for one min so it will be interesting now.
For real the conversation are definitely going to be entertaining to say the last. I on the other hand did bawl my eyes out and snotty face and all
Ok s Ok so I typed a whole response that got booted bc it said I wasn’t logged in - but I was and it only showed the half sentence above
The last one took so here it goes again - The perks of a phone conversation. I could discretely wipe away tears and gain composure while she rambled on for me. If it was in person I would have ugly cries but I tend to hold back tears when I can - something I am working on - being more vulnerable. I am glad you had the opportunity to release those feelings with someone you trust. Baby steps!
Lol that’s happened to me many times like I know I was logged in, scrap I have to type this all over again ugh
I’m the same way my husband often says I’m cold but I don’t think I am just don’t like people to see me so vulnerable. I feel exposed and a target.
