recently, i've really been wanting to come out to my mom. we're very close and i tell her everything, so i feel like it's natural for me to want to fill her in on something that i've been struggling with figuring out and accepting for such a long time (almost 4 years of questioning). yesterday i was considering it, but my mom was having a really tough day and so was i, so i wanted to wait for a better time. i went to sleep and had a dream i came out to her. and today, i really felt like it was time, but my anxiety was telling me all the ways i could fuck it up. my mom came home and noticed that i was acting different. it wasn't a conscious decision to make her realize something was up, but i knew deep down i wanted her to bring it up first so i could say it. i told her it was something important, and that if she wanted to wait for a better time for me to say it. she said that it's true that she was tired right now, but that i could tell her when we go to the theatre tonight when she'll feel better and more relaxed. i agreed, and basically i'm now shaking while typing this and my heart rate is up the roof. thankfully i know that she won't have an extremely negative reaction, but my biggest fear is that she'll be dismissive and tell me "it's just a phase" or "you're not old enough to be sure, you'll change your mind in the future." i'm aware i'm extremely lucky to have that be my main concern and not for example, getting disowned, but it would still be very hurtful to me considering i had such a hard time accepting and being confident in my identity. so yeah, that's the situation right now. i'm sure it'll go well enough, and i mostly just wanted to share this with people that might've had similar experiences, but i would also really appreciate it if anyone has some advice on: -how to word it in a way that would be easy for her to understand and avoid her being confused and dismissive. -how to deal with the extreme anxiety of coming out TL;DR: i'm coming out to my my mom tonight and i'm just looking for advice and comfort cuz i'm super nervous.