so i'm dating this guy and he's nice and sweet and funny and all but i'm not physically attracted to him at all like at all like he sent me some pics of him in his underwear and nothing nothing at all my pants were completely still soo i dont know what i should do cause i really dont see this heading anywhere but i know he does and gahhhhhh i just dont know help?
i know but its like i dont want to hurt his feelings or anything cause i know he kinda has low self esteem
You're not gonna give him anymore by pity dates, though. You don't have to hurt someone's feelings to break up with them.
You're dating him from online? So you've never actually met? Was it because he's not fit, fat, chubby, weird body- what? Was he in good shape but you just didn't feel the spark? What? As for my advice, 1) looks aren't everything but 2) they are important but 3) it's not the most important. It's in the top ten but not top three in my opinion. So, if you wanna break it off cold turkey delete his contact and block him- or- just be frank..."I'm just want to be friends" etc.
no i know hhim irl he goes to my school and i dont know what it is he's a bit unfit and idk i'm just not attracted to him *sigh*
Relationships need Intimacy, Attraction, and Passion. Or at least what I learned in Human Sexuality. Having one, or even two is not enough if you want a fully consummate relationship. So break up with him, it's better now than being with him forever cuz of his self esteem. Because that is what will happen.
I would say remain frienh him if it's possible and just get out of it. The relationship probably won't go very far if there's no physical attraction.
Yeah, if you don't feel any attraction, and you feel this is going nowhere because of that, it would be best not to get his hopes up too much. Drawing out longer will only lead to more hurt. Unfortunately it's hard to be the one that does the breaking up. But you will be doing the right thing!
Oh but might I add WE can only give you advice...that doesn't mean we're right. In your heart of hearts you know what is best. Good luck
Just because you're gay and he's a male does not mean you'll instantly be attracted to him. It happens. There's no reason to put him, or yourself, through a relationship if you're not attracted.
I don't understand how you ended up going out with him in the first place though. Just for the novelty of it? What was it that attracted you to him in the first place? However, what ever the reason might have been for going out in the first place, if it's not doing anything for you now, then stop going out with him. Presumably it hasn't been all that long.
That's what I thought... ---- Really now that I am thinking about it, you lead him on, since you knew what he look like. For all you know, he bear his soul to be in underwear, and you could had been the first person to do that too. You saw him in the school, and knew exactly what he looked like. If he isn't attractive to you now though, just tell him you don't think it's going to well, and there's no connection. Don't mention looks at all, and based it all on personalities.
Why would you get into a realationship with someone you have no attraction to? You don't need a crystal ball to see that one wouldn't work If you don't see a future then you have to do the right thing and break up with him he may be upset but it's better that he finds someone better suited for him
