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I did it, I finally came out. Now i'm terrified.

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  1. FrogCAT

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    I did it, I sent an email to my dad today. I feel like i'm going to die, i'm panicking so much, my chest hurts. What if he disowns me? What if he doesn't? I can't believe I've done this, i'm shaking so bad, it's hard to breathe. I'm actually crying, I haven't cried for so long. help
     
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    I feel sick
     
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    I don't think he's seen it yet, I can barely handle waiting this long, I almost wish I hadn't sent the email. My whole body is telling me this is the dumbest thing I've ever done. But I know better-I think- I know that this is something I had to do. I'm just so scared.
     
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    (hug)

    You were so brave to come out and you took a huge step in doing so. I hope that everything goes well. I have to admit that since you posted earlier today, I've been feeling a bit anxious about the how your parents will respond.

    I'm saying this to let you know that you are not alone and if you need to talk I am here for you as are others on these forums.

    Hugs,

    Eveline
     
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    Well first of all, I'm proud of you and you should be too :slight_smile: but I know it's hard, I SO MUCH understand that. Just keep holding on, and like Eveline said we're here for you (hugs)
     
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    Thank you so much. I actually don't plan on telling my mother(at least not for a while after i start transitioning), just my dad, because she has made it clear that she's not okay with LGB people, and even less okay with trans people.
     
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    No response so far... I'm starting to think maybe I should tell him to check his email??
     
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    Fingers crossed for you!
     
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    Honestly I think I'm almost more afraid of his acceptance than rejection, because it would show just how good of a father he is and how undeserving of having him as my father I really am.
     
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    I'm crying again, but they are tears of joy. They are tears born from knowing that after six long years I can start to move forward again. That I can now live the life I was meant to live. I am my father's daughter, and now he knows.

     
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    I am proud of you. Coming out is terrifying, but you are so brave and so strong. It feels good, doesn't it?
     
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    Thank you. It feels amazing, words really cannot completely express the sense of relief and joy I feel.
     
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    Glad that your father accepted you hun, coming out is such a hard task to deal with and sometimes the fear of being rejected can hold us back. You're doing great sweetie.
     
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    Thank you Ayase. Also, I really like your username, Ayase Kishimoto, it sounds really pretty. Is it from an anime/manga?
     
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    I actually haven't yet had the opportunity to speak with him in person(as we currently live two hours apart). However he will be visiting this Saturday, so even though he's accepted me I'm still really really nervous, which is terribly distracting. Which sucks cause I have school projects that need working on and I just can't bring myself to stay focused on them long enough to get anything done. And I'm really not sure what i'm gonna say, all I know is i'm probably gonna cry regardless of how the talk goes. If anyone has tips on how to calm the frik down I'd very much like to know.
     
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    in fact our only communication since I emailed him has been three more emails, his response, my reply in which i thanked him for being accepting of me and told him about EC, and then his reply to that thanking me for telling him about EC
     
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    Yup it's from a manga. I'm Maria
     
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    Well I would suggest you to just try as hard as possible to stay focused, when I talked with my mom about this (2 months ago) I was in kind of the same situation and I cried a lot tbh. I don't have any other advice, just try to distract yourself with your school work.
     
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    Oh me oh my, he's gonna be here in an hour. I thought i was ready, I am not ready. I'm in total flight or flight mode. UGGgghhhh.
     
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    It's okay me you just need to calm down, maybe drink some Orange mango sparkling flavored water. It's got zero calories and tastes really good. I'm thinking I might go for a bike ride to a nearby park with a nice view cause I am a drama queen comparable to the Skywalker family