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I came out to my mother... For a second...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Jkjkjk15, Oct 26, 2014.

  1. Jkjkjk15

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    So I came out my mother.... We were watching tv and there was this gay guy on this show. She made a comment about how everyone should be equal so I was like get perfect time to come out. My heart was going a mile a minute so I just said I'm Gay. She automatically said are you really? I said yes an she then said are you serious. I backed out and said no I was kidding.. She told me she doesn't believe that I was kidding but it's still so hard to do even when I know I will have their support. I am not prepared for them to talk to the family about it and have all these people finding out at once because that is what will happen. Ahh I don't know what to do...:icon_sad:
     
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    well at least you got a taste of what her reaction might've been. who knows, when she thinks about everyone being equal, you might have a positive response from your mom. hey, at least you're doing it on your own terms. it's better to be in a level headed state then to rush into the process. you can always tell your family that you weren't prepared at the time.
     
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    Well I want to say that you have done the hard part she thinks you were telling the truth so maybe you should go to her and say hey mom remember when I said I was gay ? I really am gay but I don't want you to tell anybody yet pleases this is so hard for me and i need your support please I love you. Don't rush into anyting you are not ready for ok !
     
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    Hello fellow Michigander! Do you think your mother wouldn't tell anyone else if you ask her too? I'm sure if you know she will support you, she also will understand if you want to take the coming out to the family process slow. But if you don't feel really yet, dear, that's okay too. The thought of coming out to family can be scary, I know that personally. (*hug*)

    Bolt35 is totally right, don't rush the process, it's better to do these things with a level head. Come out whenver you feel YOU are ready to, and no sooner. But it really sounds like she'll be supportive, and you said so yourself. I know it's a tough thing to do, though. So do it when you're ready.

    I wish you good luck no matter what you choose to do! (*hug*)
     
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    Well, it can be scary, but your mom thinks you were telling the truth. You know what her reaction will be. Do u think that if u would tell her not to tell any of the family yet, would she? If the answer is yes, then i would suggest bringing it up and saying that you were telling the truth. But only if youre ready. Rushing it will only make things worse.
     
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    Hmm, it does sound like the cat is out of the bag, and I agree with other posts that you should go back and finish the discussion as a way of controlling the message.
     
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    Thanks guys for the advice! The only problem really is she WILL tell everyone in the family... That just how she is:frowning2: I think I'm going to come out around Christmas time... Once gain thank you guys!
     
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    Well, maybe she already has? :icon_redf
     
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    Congrats to start with, it's really hard to do and so even though you backed out, I think you are brave to have had the courage to start it. I think if you are worried she will talk to other family about it, perhaps you need to have another conversation with her and just maybe causally mention that you don't want anyone else to know yet.. It seems like she still believes you even though you backed out at the last minute, so I think it's your chance to really talk to her now you have thought about it and she has had a think and just let her know you want to come out to everyone else in your own way.