Hello everyone, Im struggling with this thing for a month or two now and I cant get an answer. So, my situation is next - Im 18 years old and I think im bi (im pretty sure about that actually). Now, I have a friend thats 16, we are really close, we`ve known eachother for our whole lifes. Few months back I started developing feelings towards him that are more than friendly and I just wasnt sure if hes also interested in me. Few weeks back I browsed his tablet because I was looking for a song, and when I stopped browsing I wanted to shut the tablet browser off by pressing back button (I thought after few backs it will close), but it didnt cloes it just led me deeper into his browsing history... After like 5 clicks it brought me to a gay porn video site. That just proved me that he is gay. I know he likes me, I like him too and I want to be with him but I just dont know how to tell him that I know he is gay or that im gay. Im afraid of his reaction. I feel more comfortable telling him I know he`s gay but I think in that case his reactiong might be worse (if he gets scared or something). I need urgent help, I dont want to wait for him or me to get comfortable with saying that to eachother because I dont think it`ll happen anytime soon. Advice me please, people, Im kind of falling in big depression because of it. Thanks!
I wouldn't just walk up to your friend and tell him what you saw or that you know that he is gay. Instead, I would come out to him (as long as he isn't homophobic while trying to hide his true sexuality). If you do that, he might feel more comfortable coming out to you. Again, though, you have to judge the situation yourself because it is impossible to know everything from just a few paragraphs. If you trust him and really think that he likes you back, then maybe come out to him and tell him that you have a crush on him.
I agree with Perfection. Come out to your friend, as long as he's not homophobic. It is not really appropriate for you to tell him his sexuality; it's his own to divulge or not. He might feel violated if you did that. But if you come out to him, he might come out to you, and then you might have a beautiful relationship going! Maybe: it's worth a shot, right?
Come out to him if you are ready, and tell him that you are bi, and you want him to know it, because you have a sort of vague sense that he might possibly be gay or bi too, so you want him to know that if he ever wants to talk about it with you, that you will be there for him and supportive, no matter what his orientation is. Keep in mind that you are legally an adult and he is only 16, so don't do anything physical with him that might get you into legal problems in your jurisdiction.
I agree with Perfection also. This is gonna test more on your patience though. Come out to him and maybe add something like " have you ever been interested in guys" or something like that. He might say no but at least it will get him thinking and maybe come out later to you. Don't rush things or make him uncomfortable. It will only get him to push you away...
