How to start with expressing gender identity?

I'm sorry but I do not believe I could help very much...

That said your weight is a blessing! Girls would kill to be tall and skinny like you ^^

Perhaps just loosening up and being more candid about life and yourself will help. Never be afraid of how you were made, you're you!

Rock it girl

 

I did post some tips on your other thread that might interest you.

As for the voice, you might think that one's hopeless but it's actually pretty manageable. A lot of people think that the main difference between a male and female voice is pitch, but it's not. The average female pitch is only like half an octave off from the average male pitch and voice generally have a reach of two octaves in bot directions without any practice. No, what makes a voice male or female is the resonance. Resonance is a bit harder to change than pitch but it's fully possible to change it. It basically becomes a question of practicing muscles that you have simply never used before. At first it might sound a bit monotone but as you use your female voice more, your dynamic range will increase. In most cases it won't have the full dynamic range of a cis female, but it will be good. That said, I'm a bit sad because I love singing and that's one thing that doesn't always work out with a trained voice.

I'd get more into the "how do I do it" but I have a hard tile explaining it. Hopefully I'll start voice therapy in a year or so and I was planning to bring what I learn there to EC. Somebody else will probably know, though.

Also, shy girls are cute. I think you'll be fine.

 

You might have a look here:
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anonymous-gender-identity-expression/146985-need-vocal-tips-mtf.html

and here:
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and here:
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/gender-identity-expression/164130-other-trans-friends.html


(*hug*)

 

Try sneaking things for a start. Dressing up when you're alone, wearing a bra in an outfit no one can see it in, or paint your toenails. Something to make you feel more feminine but something that can be your own little secret until really figure out what you want to do with yourself.

Hope this helps!

 

Wearing feminine underwear and pantyhose works for this. You can easily wear them under your pants and while it doesn't show, you'll know.

 

I'm admittedly really bad at sizes and always have been not just for feminine clothes. They're also different from region to region, so I don't think I'd be much help.

My fiancee helps me shop for clothes, so maybe finding a girl to helo you isn't an altogether terrible idea.

Personally I don't see the point of wearing a bra if not also using fake breasts, it feels cumbersome and a little bit redundant. Fake breasts are easy to make, but obviously very noticeable.

 

i'd say start simple. start wearing stone differentlyrics cut tops and get some skinny black jeans. no one will comment much but you'll notice a big difference in your body shape. also light charcoal eyeliner is really hard to notice if u smudge it.

 

Maybe this could help:
Clothing Sizes - Susan's Place Transgender Wiki


(*hug*)

 

Uh.. my sister is 6'1". Lots of girls are tall. Just saying.

 

Training bras, and hell yeah~ rock those clothes girl! Please remember that at the end of the day it's all the small and simple steps that will eventually lead to total happiness and freeness. (*hug*)

 

Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are | Talk Video | TED.com

When it comes to clothing, take baby steps until you feel comfortable and confident enough to wear the full wardrobe of your preferred gender.

For instance, my transitioning was gradual and it took a rather long time. I started with men's t-shirts, then shoes, then jackets, and most recently, pants.

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How about a sport's bra?

 

I am in almost an identical situation except I choose to accept that I have both male and female sides to my personality. The fact that I accept myself allows for me to rationalize becoming more feminine as well as negating much of the disorder cause by gender dysphoria. While I exert my male side, I am assertive and dominant. As a female I am more sensitive to others emotion; often my female side is cute. In the end I put up another personality mask that combine both sides together so that I may live life as normal as I can be... For you, your personality may take some time to form, there is no rush.

A woman walks slowly, gracefully. She speaks softly and hold many secrets,
-E

 

Ordering on amazon, you might order a book with it, and say its a book, for example.

You might have a look at stores for used clothing. Often its not sorted by gender, and people there notice less. And people might think its for a girlfriend.
This could be a nice and easy way to get aquainted with sizes, and get a few items to start with.

Considering mannerism, I'd suggest to let the inner feeling shine through, expressing a bit more emotions, also in language. Women tend to use more words, and their voice is much more ups and downs.
Not overdoing it in the beginning, maybe starting slow, and the outer appearance and mannerism should shine through.
A straight (not stiff... just straight ) posture should help.

You could use some chapstick, or unobtrusive lipstick... (I'd recommend organic here, others might taste like wax)... have your eyebrows trimmed...
emptyclosets.com/forum/gender-identity-expression/133045-do-i-pass-thread-81.html#1615

Concerning bras, you might have a look at the video here:
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anony.../147192-transitioning-where-do-i-start.html#2
From 8:15 she talks about bras.


(*hug*)

 

I remember giving you some hints in another thread.

But it all starts with the female posture which consists of stomach in, chest out and shoulders back. It might take a while until it doesn't look so stiff, but adapting that posture has habit of changing how you sit, walk and generally move. Biological males also have elbows that point more outwards, so you might wanna twist your arms slightly so your elbows are closer to your body.