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How old were you when you came out for the 1st time (if you've come out)?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Kodo, Aug 26, 2015.

  1. Lyana

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    I was 18.
    Later would have started to feel late. Earlier wouldn't have been ideal. Uni was the best place to, for me.
     
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    23. This past May I came out to this guy I didn't really take seriously online.
     
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    I was 16 when I told my best friend, then I told another friend 9 months later, and another friend 8 months after that, then I came out publicly 4 months after that. So right after I turned 16 I came out to the first person, and right before I turned 18 I came out publicly
     
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    15, and came out as pan.
    Still got a long way to go, though. :3
     
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    Explicitely? 23
    Through hints and general conversation? 18/19
     
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    17. Probably the worst possible time I could have come out, but I'm still glad I did. The longer I waited the harder it would have been, and although coming out at that stage caused a lot of problems, I wouldn't have met most of the amazing people I know today.
     
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    I was 22 or 23. It was january or february 2011.
     
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    I think I was about 15 when I first came out to a friend as pansexual, and I'm honestly not sure when (or if!) I came out as genderqueer specifically. Probably some time between ending secondary school and starting at college.

    (That one's a lot blurrier because I can't quite remember when "Yay, cosplaying as guys is great!" turned into "Hey guys, this is my crossplay alter ego!" and then into "So this may be slightly more than a costume thing. Um.")
     
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    19 to first person
    20 to family, but that was 31 years ago!
     
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    Wow! So proud of all of you! I came out at 69, after a lifetime of hiding...
     
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    I was 14, almost 15, when I came out for the first time to my best friends within 20 minutes of each other.
     
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    16 when I came out to my mother as bisexual; 17 when I came out this year as transgender.
     
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    I'LL BE 18 bBY SEPT.I WILL LIKE TO COME OUT.BUT IN THE COUNTRY I LIVE IN,AM BETTER OFF IN THE CLOSET
     
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    At age 21.
     
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    Just recently, I sorta-came out to my parents and brother, but they didn't know what I was talking about. Then again, my orientation statement was a vague, "I'm ace."

    Right, my age! I'm 19. Might as well show it on my profile now :slight_smile:
     
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    I believe 17 but might've been 16. I don't quite remember. I came out to a friend's girlfriend. Yeah she totally didn't tell everyone immediately...
     
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    I was, and still am, 13! I've been told "You're too young to really know" but I've been like this since I was in 5th or 4th grade, when I first started thinking about sexuality. Before then, me, nor anyone else, thought about this stuff, although I always thought about guys and stuff.
     
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    I was 25.
     
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    it was 3 months ago, i was and still 21 :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: