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How often do you feel sexual/physical attraction, if ever?

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  1. awdru15

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    it comes and goes :frowning2: alcohol helps bring out my horny.
     
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    Not very often. I rarely get attracted to just someone's looks. I might start thinking a girl is sexy because of her mannerisms. That's kind of random, so I can't say how often it happens. Based on my dreams I don't really feel sexual attraction until I touch someone. I just feel a vague feeling of kind of wanting to touch someone. When I touch them the feel intensifies. Maybe it's like that in real life as well. I don't really touch much people, so that's probably why I'm not really feeling sexually attracted to much people.
     
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    Am I reading it wrong or...why are sexual and physical lumped together like that? You can be physically attracted to someone yet have no sexual desire at all for them; that's pretty much the story of my life. :l

    As I've noted before, someone being 'sexy' doesn't click with me.
     
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    I don't know if you're talking to me or not. With me attraction isn't really sexual at the beginning. It only seems to turn sexual when I'm touching someone(based on my dreams).
     
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    There is a difference between sexual and physical and if I was the one that sort of miswrote it, my bad!

    Yeah in clarification there can definitely be a physical attraction to someone without the sexual component, I guess the thing is how often and sometimes figuring out what you're feeling. That can be a little confusing sometimes, unfortunately (at least from my personal experience)

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    Yes, I am attracted to a type, but it has to do with aesthetics, not attraction. Attraction is chemistry and has more to do with who a person is than what they look like. That's why there are dates and not just hook-ups. I'm dating someone now and our meetings are highly charged, but we've not yet been to bed. The limits we've place on the relationship have made it more intense. Pleasure delayed = pleasure increased. At least in this relationship, it is. Certainly, there are time when there's a quick, intense attraction, like rut. The night might be great, but there's no relationship other than an exchange of body fluids. I have a tendency to be single-minded, and if I've set my cap at something everything else falls away for the time.
     
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    Sorry, I have some trouble understanding the distinctions between all these terms. What does physical attraction mean? How is it different from sexual attraction?
     
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    I'm not sure if I'm the best person at answering this and if anyone else wants to give some insight it'd be much appreciated! I'll throw in my few cents though.

    I recognize there's a difference, but I'm not too sure how to explain it. I *think* physical attraction is that you're drawn to their looks, you feel attracted to them on that level and it's real nice looking at them, maybe you want to be close to them, but there's no real desire to do anything sexual with them- they are just really good looking and that's attractive, but not in a way that makes you want to see them naked or do anything with them in bed. I'm not 100% certain on how that differs from aesthetic attraction but I think the main point is that it lacks sexual desire/arousal/a want to do any sexual activity with them.

    Am I correct in this? I don't think I'm entirely the best person to explain this but this is what I understand at the moment.

    I think it's hard to draw distinctions sometimes for sure, and I'm sure people experience attractions differently, but it'd be great to hear what some people think.
     
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