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How Long Did You Stay In The Closet?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Jmiller85, Jul 25, 2016.

  1. Wolfwing

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    48 years? You must have been so far in the closet that you were having adventures in Narnia.
     
  2. Bluesteel

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    14 years total... 6 months since I accepted I was gay
     
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    I still am closeted although I leave hints of my feminine and gay side here and there.
     
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    2.5 years and counting
     
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    32 Years. I don't regret it, too much.
     
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    I knew from the time I was 12 or 13 that I was gay but didn't really accept it until I was 16. Cam out to everyone including my family when I was 18.
     
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    Forever and it's all a part of my grand plan.
     
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    I realized I liked a girl, then I panicked and told my friend about an hour later ._.
    Now, a few months later, my closest friends know but not my family.
     
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    I tentatively questioned a bit for about 2 years, than I stretched telling my mom and a friend over a couple of weeks, and now I'm out, but not really. If it comes up with someone I trust and know their opinion I'll them, but if it doesn't come up in the conversation I don't bring it up or it does and I don't trust them or know their opinion, I'll probably say Bi.
     
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    15 years...until I found someone I felt comfortable with telling :slight_smile:
     
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    From the time I first realized I had same sex attraction to my coming out was 35 years.
     
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    I actually came out to a friend over text as I was panicking because I had realized I was gay so like right away someone knew. But I didn't tell anyone other friends for several months. My sister took almost a full year.
     
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    I had suspicions I was gay in college back in the early 1970s, but was completely afraid to act on those impulses. I lusted after one of my girlfriend's gay friends when I was in grad school. I fooled around with guys, some pretty regularly, in 1979-1981, and then met and married my wife. I've had occasional gay encounters over the years and sort of let a few gay friends know of my inclinations but never came right out and said "I'm gay" until last year when I got over my fear and started photographing male nudes. Then about a week ago I came out to my wife in a very direct way. So you could say I've been deep in the closet for 44 years, and to most people I still am.
     
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    11 years. I regret maybe 4 of them but what's done is done.
     
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    I was in the closet for at least 3 months before coming out to my friends. From my parents and family (except my cousin), it's been more than a year. Like a year and a half. ;-;
     
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    From accepting that I was gay, it didn't take me that long to come out. Almost straight away to my close friends and my family between 3 to 4 months :slight_smile:
     
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    7 years with almost 1 year of acceptance.
     
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    came out at 12 to my friends and people i loved
    to my family at 19
    who promptly ignored it
    to quote the simpsons
    "lets never speak of this again"
     
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    10 years...
    although the goalpost is shifting because I only told them some of it
     
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    7 years, came out when I was 13..so glad I did.