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How Effeminate are you ?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SomeAverageBoy, Nov 9, 2017.

  1. SomeAverageBoy

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    This can apply to either girls or guys
    As for me, I don’t look effeminate on the surface as it might be noted from my appearance (tall, big and hairy with short hair) and preferences (robots, games, scifi) however I am very emotionally sensitive and I often have mood swings and are prone to anger (this could just be my Aspergers but whatevs) I also seem to find it easier to bond with females rather than males.
    I “blame” this on my upbringing as I spent a lot of my time around female relatives.
    I also love cute stuff and online I could pass off as a girl by some of the ways I communicate
     
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    I'm moderately effeminate. I have artistic interests, like fashion and cooking, use fine hand gestures, and enjoy having nice hair~

    Emotionally I'm not particularly feminine, though I am something of an old fashioned romantic.
     
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    *Cough* practically a lady *cough* XD
     
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    Wow. I have several cast iron male characteristics and emotional compass.
    Was once in the army well the cadet force enjoy masculine things like football fishing and . . The scouts. Boxing blood up fighting talk. .
    And yet . . .
    I am very precise fussy petty girly feisty; like dresses long to wear eye makeup and do sometimes
    Have a passion for nylon satin lingerie including wearing it myself altho I rarely do..
    and these feelings also go right back to childhood
    Oh and I like wedding dresses
    so where does t hat leave me. .
     
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    Honestly, I have no idea. I *think* I'm pretty effeminate, but thanks to my history of depression, that sometimes gets muddied.
     
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    Im not sure if Im feminine, but Im definitely a stereotypical gay man. I mince about, preen. and Im bad a sports; Im also just very loud and flamboyant. I cook and clean, thats a womanly thing, Im not sure if Im a femme or its just a part of being a camp guy.
     
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    How exactly are we rating this?
     
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    I'm pretty masculine in my appearance, mannerisms, and interests so most people just assume I'm straight. It often comes as a complete shock when I tell people I'm gay, which I get a kick out of.
    Cooking and cleaning may be traditional feminine activities, but nowadays its not uncommon for both gay and straight men to do those things too. Heck, several of my older male relatives are great cooks while their wives struggle in the kitchen. Times are changing and the barriers between stereotypical gender norms are gradually breaking down.
     
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    I’m very masculine, and not feminine at all. I don’t believe anyone would suspect that I am bisexual
     
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    Quite. I'm masculine in the sense I have a male body and for the most part am happy to live male. Everything else like my emotions, my voice, my attitude, my social stances are quite feminine.
     
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    Looks wise, I'm fairly effeminate for a guy; average height, long hair, pale, super skinny and little muscle.

    When it comes to how I act, it depends who I'm around. There are some people that I'm openly gay/bi/whatever around and I'm super camp when I'm with them. Apparently I've started doing the cliche camp limp hand thing, so that's a thing.
    When I'm with anybody else I tend to act camp-ish, less so than around those I'm more open to, but if I get a bit too into it people just say it's banter or whatever
     
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    We have to be careful on this post we play fair and be nice to both genders. Does anyone know what I mean by his? Really I'm saying let's not perpetuate stereotypes that's all I'm saying.
     
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    I enjoy cooking and cleaning, I watch fashion shows, make-up tutorials - and dabble a little myself - I'm generally friendly and assertive, I have pretty feminine mannerisms and am quite stylish for a guy. I connect very well with members of the opposite sex but I do notice I'm a lot less complicated than most girls. I guess, to answer the question, if I were to wake up tomorrow in the body and life of a girl my age, I'd have no problems passing whatsoever (nor would I be uncomfortable in the slightest) - even while keeping my current wardrobe!

    So, whether that makes me effeminate or simply flexible and androgynous, I've no idea.
     
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    @andimon you sound like a man after my own heart.
     
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    From the outside I probably look more straight than most straight guys. I'm lazy about my appearance/dress sense. But internally I freak out in most social situations and start overcompensating. I've been doing it for so long that the facade is almost automatic. Most people don't even realise I'm so feminine because the person they're talking to is an act.
     
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    That is really interesting and so true. We do overcompensate. Many do & I know I do. The real truth underneath is hard to uncover even to ourselves.
     
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    Prefer being around women, not very comfortable around men. Been told I have a girlish figure. Seem to "pass" when dressed in a feminine way. Do a lot of the so called "woman's work" at home ( I know times have changed, and it really isn't important who does the house work). Mannerisms are effeminate (but feel like I hide them more than I like). But I'm not fond of being defined or restricted by the "boxes" that are used for gender identity.
     
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    I find that my mannerisms are very fem, and some times i dress sorta fem, but If I had the option is would dress androgynous.
     
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    I know what you mean but in my case I would LIKE to be free to have fem mannerisms and dress (sort of) but I don't as I couldn't even do androgynous without those close to me noticing. It's sad but I have to hide everything for now. But good luck.
     
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    I'd say I'm pretty average for a guy. I'm quite stereotypically masculine but I do have a few effeminate characteristics.