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How do you stay confident enough to come out?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Redsweater, Nov 17, 2017.

  1. Redsweater

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    How do you stay confident enough to come out? Every time I try to I get overcome with nervousness and wait and wait and wait till I'm basically falling asleep on my couch.
     
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    Coming out is hard! I spent a whole month with an unbearable urge to come out to my mom before I finally did it. I would even avoid long conversations because I wanted to tell her so much that I was afraid I would spurt it out while talking about everything... I'm a bit socially awkward sometimes and I didn't know how to start this type of conversation, so at some point I just spurted it out out of the blue haha
     
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    I've come out over text twice. I guess it's just easier for me to press a button than to figure out how to work it into the conversation.
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    Redsweater....If you find the answer to that question I know there are many people who would also like to know! I can tell you that it gets easier...depending on who you are telling. I haven't come out to anyone for about a year. Last Friday I ran into a friend that I haven't seen for about four years. I did get a little nervous, but not very much, as I came out to him. Many times it has a lot to do with who you are coming out to. Important people in your life can be difficult to come out to - especially if you are uncertain of their reaction. For me, understanding and really accepting who I am gave me more confidence. As I became more sure of myself, my worry about being rejected decreased. It was an attitude that said; "This is me, if you don't accept me, it's your problem not mine." If I was going to come out to someone, I did care about their reaction, but it has become less upsetting to me if they don't react well. Hope this helps a little...hang in there and...you be you!! .....David
     
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    @quebec's response is spot-on here. The better you understand and accept yourself, the more confidence you will have when telling someone else. It's very true.
     
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    I do whatever that came to my mind, that is enough.
     
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    It's incredibly hard as others said. The crushing weight is unbearable. This pressure can cause depression and compound your emotions. I'd recommend coming out to just one person to start. A close friend or sibling. You don't have to burst out of the closet, just open the door and take baby steps. It's all in your timing and control. Best wishes.
     
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    I may not be the best authority on this as I drank a whole carafe of coffee when I told one of my friends I was a lesbian. DON'T DO IT! I was vibrating into the weekend and she was fine with it but, don't drink a whole carafe of coffee at IHOP and then tell her.