I have an extreme sexual attraction to women. Though I have never been with one. Also growing up and through high school I was boy crazy. I think because it was just what the NORM was. I had serious boyfriends throughout college and met my current husband my senior year. I did have many crushes on girls. I was also very much around lesbians being that i went to an all womens college, and I was a theatre major so i was very close to quite a few of them. I just never GOT it. I never let it even enter my mind that it would be something i would want. Skip forward to age 23 and it was all i thought about. How can you never think about being a lesbian for 24 years and then suddenly start to develop those feelings? is that normal??? I am 32 now (well in 2 weeks). The feelings have gotten stronger rather than less. But if i have never actually been with a woman romantically or sexually how do I even know it something to explore? Wouldn't leaving my spouse over something I THOUGHT might be what i wanted be stupid? ---------- Post added 6th May 2014 at 05:04 PM ---------- i just re-read this and i don't even think it makes sense to ME let alone any of you. So just bare with me here.