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How do you not fall in love ?

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  1. Aeolia

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    Well... I have this friend who lives kind of far away (the other side of the country, but France ain't that big)... He's gay too.
    When I'd started to feel something that was more than friendship towards him, I just tried not to talk to him, thinking that those thoughts would disappear with time.

    I thought I was done with it, but yesterday he liked something on my facebook and I now that I was just laying in bed, I began to think about him... Things were even stronger than before, my heart began to beat faster and all those stuffs...

    He's smart, good-looking, nice, nerdy... The kind of guy I really like, but he's also a friend that I just don't want to lose...

    Do you have any idea how not to fall in love ?
     
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    Been wondering the same thing lately. Maybe you could focus on any negatives he has? Or attempt to convince yourself that he isn't worth the trouble? Matters of the heart are complicated affairs.
     
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    No idea, but when you figure it out fill me in.
     
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    Bruh, I TOTALLY FEEL YOU!!! (*hug*) This happened to me more than once this year!

    Trust me, this NEVER helps. It would only lead you to liking EVERY flaws he have.

    If he's your friend.... UGH, this is hard... Ok, by any chance, has he given you hints that he's into you? Is he single? Would you like to be his life partner? Like be under one roof with him, deal with his rants and shits in life, deal with life together, dealing with him when he's sick or ill, etc?

    Gosh, I am a bit panicking for you. I dont want a friend to feel the same way I felt (it's terrible). I hope things would go well with the two of you.
     
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    The heart wants what the heart wants. There is little we can do to stop it.




    Dealt with this for four damn years. Eventually, we just got together, and now we've been together for four years. Did not work for me...
     
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    1. Avoid all humans.

    2. Purge thyself of emotions.

    Just kidding. In all seriousness though, I'd venture to see if he would potentially be interested. Like, is he single or whatnot. If so develop a deeper friendship with him, show hints of affection, see if he reciprocates. You have nothing to lose and by shying away you could potentially be missing out on a relationship.

    Oh, you meant not falling in love. Well... See #1-2.

    Best wishes.
     
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    Just be dead inside. Easy peasy.
     
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    Is there a reason why falling in love is out of the question? I'm not going to say what I was going to say until I'm sure of this.

    kodo isnt wrong...
     
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    I. I have no idea. I have no experience with falling in love or liking someone...(Unless you count when I was 7 and liked this guy.)

    I guess like the others said...? Be dead inside. Avoid humans. Talk to aliens. ..Nah, I'm just being silly.
     
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    Because sometimes completely falling in love with that person is the worst case scenario. If you let yourself fall in love with that person (who is impossible to love you back, for some reason) then you'll end up being hurt or betrayed.
     
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    (*hug*) It'll get better, buddy. All things happen. (*hug*)
     
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    I know that. I'm just sayin, long distance over there in france, isn't quite so long as it can be here in the US. It's do-able, if the feelings are strong enough, and the distance isn't quite soooo loOoOoOong
     
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    How to not fall in love: step 1: acknowledge those feelings for him and then bury them deep in a dark hole and muffle out your sorrows with Ben and Jerry's.... (it works for me anyway)

    No I'm joking... or am I?
    I think it's best to just let love swell up inside of you and be honest with yourself and him. It never hurts to try and then maybe a month or year from then you guys can look back and laugh about it.
     
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    Ugh, I've been trying to figure this out for 6 months. You just can't help it. Try to nip it in the bud somehow, and let me know if you find anything that works. Nothing hurts more than not being able to be with the one you love.
     
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    Have you told him how you felt yet? I confessed to my crush. We are together now. At that time my feelings were so strong that I was like "Doesn't matter if you like me or not. Take my confession you dickish bastard!"
    He's in UK and I'm in Finland. We haven't regretted giving our relationship a chance.
     
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    Well... there is no particular reason for me not to want to... Just that I have no fuckin' confidence right now...
     
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    I won't lie about your chances, long distance is a difficult commitment even with the ideal amount of time, resources, mutual effort, etc. But I truthfully believe this: if you feel something strong for him, and he reciprocates those feelings, there's no reason not to give it a try.
     
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    Sever all your emotions and become an empty husk of a human being :/
     
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    I once knew a girl I could possibly fallen for, but I stopped myself because I knew it would never work out. And I knew she wasn't in love with me. So I just reasoned with myself that falling in love with her is a bad idea.